dgair6820

oh, she never got jealous. that musta been a typo. im the one who is. the reason she is still in his life is because sehs the only one who will manage the band for free. they dont talk though. as i said before, i highly doubt something is going on between them. the thing is, this happened a year and a half ago, im not going to dump him now because of it. if i say i forgive him and give him anohter chance, im not going to dump him a year and a half later. i love him and he really makes me happy. he tries really hard to raise my self-esteem so id otn feel the need to be jealous. im not jealous of the girl, it doesnt really bother me when she comes over. the girl coming over isnt what bothers me, its when hes at a party and he drinks. i just am trying to find ways where i can sleep easy at night. i just have this barrier in front of me that doesnt want to let me trust him because im scared of getting hurt, of course this is all reasonable..but i want to be able to trust him. other than that theres been not even a little bit of evidence for any reason why i shoudlnt trust him. thanks for the advice, and ir eally do just need to get over it. i want to get over it. im not angry at him, or anyone, this was a kiss that lasted 5 seconds ago that hapepned a year and ahalf ago. it was a very bad thing that happened to me i was so sad for so long, and clearly am still effected by it. its just, if i say im gonna forgive him, im not going to dump him now because of it, i dont want to dump him now. i just want to learn how to trust him again.

yes i would definetly break up with him again if he did. deep down ig uess i kinda dont think he will. but even though i think i know that, its just hard not to get angry

me and my boyfriend have been in a relationship for just over 2 years. on new years eve of 2004/2005 he ended up making out with this girl. he confessed and i dumped him, but he genuinely seemed sorry, he was bawling his eyes out and after a week of being broken up i decided to forgive him. so everything has been fine. my boyfrnied has been in a band for about a year, a few months ago, my bf let one of his band members stay at his house as he had no where else to stay. this guy (tyler) ended up hiring the girl that my boyfriend cheated on me with as the band manager a couple months ago. i ahve talked to the girl a few times about this problem and she apologized profusely, saying it meant nothing to her, she has no attraction to my boyfriend at all and they purposely go out of their way not to talk. however, tyler invites her over about once every week or so to watch them practice and line up shows. the thing is, they practice at my boyfriends house. anyhow the girl has a boyfriend and me and my boyfriend are very happy and get along great and im there most of the time she is and they hardly even talk and you can easily see there is no chemistry between the two of them. however, whenever i find out that she is there i get extremely jealous. it even broke up my boyfriend and i a fwe months ago, but we got back together after a few weeks. i am trying to change my jealousy and trust my boyfriend. i am 99.99% sure nothing has hapopened with him and this girl, its more or less i just get mad that sehs there. shes one of the nicest people and i guess subconsciously i know that nothing has happened since, or will..but its hard not to get very mad about it, or worry that when he goes to parties and gets extremely drunk like he was that last time, that hes gonna do anything wrong. can anyone help me, please? thanks!