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aw thanks guys. sometimes...a little validation helps. the blame game...im guilty of it but am i really? i blamed him for ending the relationship becuase he cheated on me and that's for the most part a deal breaker. i just keep thinkign though, or ketp thinking, all he needed to do is say mg...i dont want to be with you any longer. it would have been hard and sad but it wouldn't have turned into the fiasco that it did. the problem was...for him atleast, he didn't think he'd get caught. thanks guys for all your words. hearing them defn helps me figure some things out...about him. i guess in his eyes i'll always be the bad guy. there's always that small part that's like i wonder if in the future he'll remember what happen and how it happen and come to realize his part in it well it was a major part. but knowing him, he'll probably forget. becuase like i said...apparently 'it was my fault.' lol. man. how funny when someone's true colors come out. and the red flag thing/s yeah...i see em now and won't make that mistake next time.

Ailec1987 - well it's hard NOT to listen when someone's telling it to you to your face or when you have the same circle of friends that I am unwilling to give up. I love these people and vice versa. So unfort. sometimes you just hear things through the grapevine...though they all know the true reason we broke up as well, it just pisses me off from time to time that's all. mostly like a how dare you blame me for your cheating. hmp. blender - you know something about what you just said...in a matter of months, he'll be doing the same to the new girl. well perhaps not months but sooner or later - i just remembered once he mentioned that all his other exes were "crazy". now i've had some doozy of exes, some crazy, some not, sometimes it was my fault, sometimes things didn't work out but not ALL of them were "crazy" - it was always one thing or another. so i'm thinking anyone who lables all their exes as crazy...well what you guys said about projecting. friscodj - don't feel bad for her, she cheated with him on me so whatever she gets is...just rewards. and "lazy, irresponsible and doesn't know how to deal with his feelings (specifically frustration with the problems in the relationship and his direction of anger)." YES! exactly what I was thinking. we never even really talked because everytime i wanted to sit down and get a little serious...it was just always a problem. at 32 you'd think he would be a little less...immature. ack! so angry but so happy i'm not longer with him. well..i keep telling myself that atleast. dont' want him back just irritated with his reaction to my reaction. what nerve.

My ex cheated on me and I left. Simple right? No not so simple. After I found out he had been cheating (he is currently with the woman he had the affair with, they begin as "friends" but now suddely a few months later it seems as if they're dating...) he got angry with me. He's blaming the reason he cheated on me. He says if I hadn't of gotten angry things might be different. Many months later he's still angry with me and I just don't understand this mindset. I mean I'm not sitting here thinking about it on a daily basis, it's not consuming me, but I am curious to know if any of you have experienced this or have any insight as to what the deal is. Someone cheats on you, gets busted then blames their partner for the cheating and also creating drama (I didn't create drama BUT I'll admit after I found out about the cheating...I contributed to it by not just walking away. I snapped.) Now I hear that my ex is angry with me and apparently what weren't problems before have all become huge problems (ie. I think he's complaining about the way I 'am' - never seemed to be a problem for him until...he got busted). So WHY do they do this? Why do people do this? Is it just an easy way for them to deal with the guilt of what they did? Is it complete immaturity? Did his true nature come out - is he just a jackhole? It just trips me out that he's trying to make me the 'badguy' in all of this when everything that happened was a creation of what he...created. ugh. sometimes people just suck. dear ex take responsibility for your actions. i didnt cheat. YOU did. and if she or the countless many others you encounter don't end up being the right one...well that's your fault that you wanted to test out and see if the grass was greener. if it is kool...if it's not...well live with your decision and the knowledge that what could have at least ended as a friendship with a possibiility to get together in the future...has ended with me beginning to dislike who you are now and everything you've ever been. you are not the man you pretended to be. me.