okay. well i was seeing this girl for about three months right after i met her. We bonded like no other, talked all night every night we were together. she was so happy, you have no idea. im pretty sure she was falling for me...one time she even said "aww...im too attached" when she asked if she could seem me the next day. anyways, we then dated for a month and everything was the same, talked every day...she lived 2 hrs away by the way, but she'd be back for summer so i thought id give it a try. it was amazing. she was the best girlfriend ever. then she started not calling me for weeks and i was confused.
but then she'd call me when she could see me and everything would be the same but she had been going through a hard time with a relative dying...and apparently she recently told me she'd been thinking about her ex boyfriend a lot and its been killing her, there had been 2 months of her not calling and all that, now she told me this and thinks we should "just be friends" because i friendship is all she can handle right now. her phones taken away and i cant talk to her which sucks but i only catch her on IM every once in a while. i cant see her because shes grounded...she came back home from college for the summer. she wont be ungrounded for a while and with all the thoughts of her ex, i dont think she knows how she feels about me or what she'll feel after this is over.
this is the most perfect girl ive ever met and i do not want to lose her. i know we cant be together until she deals with this and gets her ex out of her mind and moves on, but how do i know if she'll still want me after this is out of her head, how do i assure that she will. I know she needs time and not a boyfriend right now. so im going to do my own thing and hang out with other girls and stuff...and be her friend. id told her im here any time at all if she needs to talk to someone. should i not try to see her? it didnt seem like i was a rebound because of how happy she was and how she felt and how much she talked to me and everything she told me. plus she knows theres no way she can get back with him and that hurts. he hurt her then she hurt him then she broke up with him. i know she feels a lot of guilt and a lot of pain and i want to help.
should i try to help her? should i not answer for a day or two if she calls? what should i do? i like her and she likes me but how do i get this to continue after she's over her ex? what do i have to do for her now? she wants me to do my own thing, is this gonna make her feel jealous or like she lost me or something...could this help the situation? does anyone have any advice...ESPECIALLY WOMEN??? i think i need a little guidance here about how womens' minds work in this situation. im almost positive this girl is the right one for me so i dont want to screw this up.
Thank you for any help you can give.
