Pretzel_theif

hey im back here again.. thanks for the support earlier this month. Ive been taking it slow with my lesbian friend. She had been sending me a series of mixxed signals, strong positive signals, and then later she pretends I dont even exist...and now, she told me yesterday she has feelings for me, i sense it scares her... I generally feel the distance when shes around or been around other lesbians. I know when she comes accross another lesbian when hanging out with me, she suddenly gets self conscious about being with a guy. Any Lesbians out there that could shed some light on this?

I cant believe all the crazy stuff going on, regarding all this. I talked to a few of my straight friends for insight, and all they could think about was 'chasing amy' or the possibilities of a 3some... Im not into that kind of thing, I want to consider myself to be a regular joe. I just wanted insight, not sexual.. whatever. So that was a mistake 3fold, cause the word that ive been seeing a lesbian has started to spread. I dont know what to do. Im starting to really care about her.

Ive got a million thoughts going on, and im afraid of turning my post into a long boring novel. so ill try to be brief. In the past couple days... I took a step back, tried to just pursue the friend route. She is a really awesome girl, I love hanging out with her and I can see how much she wishes things were either black or white. Last night, she invites me to a lesbian bar to celebrate pride weekend and meet her friends. At first she asks me if I can stay a little off, cause shes affraid her friends will assume theres more to our 'friendship'. A couple songs later, shes all over me. she says to me in the car. that she grew up trying to be straight, came out and was totally happy with her ex for 2 years, and in the last year after dating a lot hasnt been able to connect much and now i came around and caused even more confusion. she said something to the effect of if she had to choose one, straight or gay, she'd choose women... and moments later, shes all over me again. so much for the friend route, right? I guess Im just afraid of doing something stupid. I dont want to end up hurting or disappointing her. Im just riding the current

I dont want to go into too much detail... 2 or 3 weeks ago, she and I were hanging out, and one thing led to another. Since then, weve seen eachother quite a few times, all with good results. We've talked a lot about our relationship, and what it may look like, but everytime she just ends up saying, "I dont know..." I can only imagine all the trouble she went through discovering herself and coming out, I can see how troubling it is for her. I think that she is afraid of how her lesbian friends will view her if she continues and they find out shes bi. I dont know a lot about lesbian culture. It seems very protective. and I think Im in over my head. So heres my questions: Is there anything I can do to support her? Am I looking at a lost cause? Should I just quit, maybe leave things at a friendship?