Sandie

You relationship sounds very similar to one I had many years ago and let me tell you how blind love is! If he lies now, he will lie in the future. Does he lie to his friends, even about stupid things? You need to act like you don't care(fake it!) and that you are cool with the break up. I agree with the other post to you that you might want to accidentally run into him, but make sure it's not obvious. Then by all means act like you DON'T CARE. Smile alot . Look happy. That is --if you still want hime back. You may be sooo much better off without him. I know you can't see that right now because you are in pain, but girl, you sound like you have a life and he needs to get one. The pain will subside if you keep busy. Hang out with girlfriends and don't turn down any dates, even if you don't think you want to go. He may then want you back and you may decide he's not worth it. You WILL heal. It just takes holding your head up high and say to yourself " he's the one who is losing out!" Hope this helps.

Here's a different one for you: I'm 43, mother of 3. seeing a guy that works alot and lives kind of far away(same city). He doesn't have a car or much money ( I have both) but he's a great friend and lover. He used to call me "baby" and finish the conversation saying i love you. I told me the "I love you" was freaking me out. Now he doesn't say either anymore and I wish he did. If I call him he always calls me back. However he hasn't been initiating the calls lately. Our relationship is kind of weird because we would only see each other like once a week on his day off and when my kids are in school. I had not heard from him in a week so I called casually and he said "where have you been?" I said oh, i've been around. He said well you haven't called me. and i said well you haven't called me either! Then I told him I was going to come kidnap him (so to speak) on Saturday night(we RARELY get together at night) and he said "why, what's going on?" I said I was free so I was coming to get him. he then said he would be in touch, but with no excitement whatsoever. Now am I supposed to hang in the balance for the next 3 days wondering if I have plans or not? I think he may be interested in a girl at his new job but supposedly she is engaged... Why doesn't he either show more enthusiasm or dump me? tired of the roller coaster, but he's just so hot! please advise. thanks -- Merged post (SwingFox) --- Ok, so if I don't hear from him about Saturday night is it over? I guess I expect him to be either thrilled or break up. Can't deal with the middle road stuff. Is he waiting for a better offer before he plans his evening? What gives?