Hello,
this is my first post.
I am a 31 y/o male having some problems dealing with life and sex.
I am 5 years clean from cocaine too.
My need for lust and sexual encounters has always been very high from a young age. I masturbate daily and get horny at the sight of many women.
I have been know for spending a lot of time looking for casual sexual encounters days an nights, maybe once a week, in bars, streets, parks etc, especially in my drug years.
But I still go out by myself trying to get lust and sex at least once a week.
I do not have great needs in terms of sex but usually, some kissing mutual masturbation could be enough ;-)
But it rarely happens so I get more frustrated.
As an ex cocaine addict, sex was one of my main motivations. You could meet very needy women and have a good time with them without complications. They were VERY horny too.
Now, I am off drugs but still feel this strong need for connection and relief.
I recently broke off a 7 year relationship that started out well in terms of sex and felt relatively satisfied even in the end with a frequency of once a week or so.
So now we broke up, and I want to have sex a lot but I don't want to go back to lurking the bars, doing drugs just to get with needy women.
My high sex drive is impairing my ability to relate with the regular women I should be with. Women eventually sense that and dont like it obviously.
There is a certain anxiety that builds up and kills my attempt at being a gentleman...
I am capable of being patient but the fact is that on a weekly basis, I go on a binge hoping to get relief.
I find women incredibly sexy and want them to want me too but they are not as needy as I am.
I wonder if this ability to control the sexual urge makes the difference between a man and a wanker.
Thanks