shybob

this may sound cliche, but your ideal weight is wherever you feel comfortable. it sounds like you are very attractive and more important, it sounds like you have a positve view of your body and self. it sounds like you will feel and be attractive regardless of a 20lb swing in any direction!

you and your smile are beautiful! however, if you think you need to do something to make yourself feel better than you should do it. however, as others have said, you may want to try a temporary, non-surgical, approach first! Good luck!

Thank you Mrocza for all of the nice posts. I've never discussed this with anyone before, so it is a bit overwhelming for me to talk about. Your comments are so helpful! I know everything you say is true, but it is hard to take that first step towards self-acceptance. I think my confidence, specifially, my sexual confidence, is shaken because I focus so much on my size, that I have not really focused on the moment enough. Instead of enjoying sex, I am thinking "my penis is too short or too thin..." I am confident in other aspects of my life, so I have something to build on. I wish it were as easy as overcoming other fears, like public speaking, where practice would make me more comfortable. There really isn't an opportunity to practice being naked!! Anyway, thank you again, and if you can think of any more advice on how to improve my body image and self esteem, I would love to hear it! thank you!

very cute. Lol on the ron jeremy comparison... No, without being to graphic, it is smaller than average or at least on the very low end of the average range. i've had a few experiences where women spoke of former parters being larger, and i've experienced a little teasing as a boy in the showers. what makes it seem worse is that when flacid it really shrinks up a lot which sort of magnifies the smallness. but it is still on the small side when erect. (i can't believe i am saying all of this...)

Mrocza, first of all, your picture is hysterical! i am not in therapy. maybe i should be. this is really embarrassing, but, specificaly, i think that my penis is very small. i don't know why it embarrasses me so much. i rationally know that it is not the end of the world and that it doesn't define me. however, that said, i simply freak out, or more aptly completely avoid, any situation where i might be revealed.

yes. i am extremely self consious of my body. i am tall, slender, nice looking, but i think i am "inadequate" to put it delicately, but i also recognize that i have distorded body image. i need to break out of this mental cycle of a bad body image and insecurity.

I simply cannot undress in front of other people. Not in a romantic setting, not even in the gym. I think it goes beyond shy and borders on anxiety/phobia. I really want to lose my inhibitions and just strip and get passed this, but I can't seem to take the first step. It so embarrassing that I have never discussed this and don't think I could tell anyone I know how I feel. Any ideas on how/where I can take it off in order to get over this anxiety?