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I'm 26, she's 23 and I've been out with her and her friends about 3-4 times and we have been going out now for 3 months if that helps any. She has 2 sets of friends she usually hangs out with. She keeps them separate because they don't have anything in common she tells me. The one group, I haven't hung out with at all and the excuse she gave me was about not having anything in common with them and I would be bored and not like it. My complaint to her is that she isn't even giving me a chance in the first place. Also, around the time she said she wanted to slow things down is when she has wanted to hang out with her friends and not invite me along. It doesn't help much that her group of friends that I've met includes her ex-boyfriend whom she is still friends with. Last night she said she would call me later because I asked her if she wanted to do something. I never heard from her and I found out that she went over to play cards at her ex's house with some people. She was too tired to drive home and she said she slept on his couch but she has done this once before. I want to believe her but am I being played like a fiddle?

She has told me that she wants to slow things down so I don't know if this is part of it. I just hate the fact that the thought of her sneaking around on me is creeping into my head because of this...

Yeah, we've all gone out a few times together but I could count those times on 1 hand.

My girlfriend has told me that she doesn't invite me out when she goes out with her friends (mostly guys) because I don't have enough in common with them. She thinks that we will have nothing to talk about because of our difference in interests. I've been out with her and them a few times and it's true that I haven't said much but I am more of a listener than a talker so it's hard for me to strike up a conversation to begin with since I'm somewhat on the shy side. Nothing ever seems to pop into my head. That's just my personality but it seems like I am coming off like a jerk or I'm too good for them. Is there anything I can do about this?

Thanks for your replies and advice. I think my main problem is that my last 2 longer relationships have both been long distance so I would see them on the weekends but that was about it. Now for the first time, I'm dating someone who lives closer and I dont have to drive hours just to see them.

Hi all, I've been reading some posts on the forum and just decided to join and post my own predicament I'm having right now. Just a little background info here. I met my girlfriend about 4 months ago and we've been going out for a little over 2 months now. On our second date she dropped the bomb on me that she is divorced. Well, it was a surprise to me because she is only 22. She got divorced because she found out her now ex-husband was cheating on her. She's been divorced since October of last year. This bothered me a little but I soon got over it and everything has been great for 2 months now where we've been seeing each other pretty much every day. A few weeks ago she said that she wanted to slow things down. Now it seems like I only see her once or twice a week but when I do see her, it's great. My problem is that when she does other things, like go out with her friends or to parties, they are easily things that I could join in. I guess my question is, how could she suddenly just be okay with seeing me hardly at all when we would see each other all the time? Has the "newness" of the relationship worn off maybe? Do I need to give her that space and wait it out because it's still pretty soon after her divorce? I don't want to push or rush her into anything. Or should I just call the whole thing off? I'm just really frustrated. Sorry for the long post, Thanks.