STILL HOPING

Yeah he dumped me, and he came up with really lame excuses. I think he dumped me because he felt smothered and I was with him a lot. I didn't give him enough space. But when I wanted space, he did the same thing (smothered me). I just wish we could try again. I'm afraid if I ask, that will possibly overwhelm him and put too much pressure on him. I think that if he wanted anything with me, he would at least try to be friends first. But that's not happening. Since him and I have mutual best friends, I want to at least call a truce and be friends so we don't have to split our time hanging out with our best friends. I wish we could all hang out at the same time without any weirdness. So, if it is just a friendship, that's fine with me. I'm just trying to re-establish contact, even in the form of an acquaintance. But he won't let it happen.

He's the one who dumped me though. And i really don't know the reason for it.

He never responded to I realize he really doesn't want anything to do with me. I guess I just can't understand why? I'm such a catch and guys are lucky to be with me. He's never going to be able to find someone like me at all. Everyone knows that. Him and I were perfect together. I just don't see why he can't give me a second chance.

yeah, i know. i just would like to call a truce i guess. we have mutual best friends and i wish we could all hang out at the same time again. i just want him and i to be friends, even acquaintances, as long as its not us having to take turns with our friends. but he won't allow it to happen. am i not using to right words with him?

yeah, that's true. i hope he at least responds even if it's a "no". just so i know he received the message. we'll wait and see.

Ok, I just left him a voicemail. I asked him if we could meet up as friends. He hasn't responded. I just don't understand why we can't be friends, we aren't seeing anyone else so I don't understand why he doesn't want to see me or talk to me at all. I thought four months later he would have cooled off and possibly missed me by now. He isn't seeing anybody and either am i. I don't get it.

Unfortunately, him and I have the same best friends but he was friends with them first. So if he's hanging out, I can't go. And I would just like to call a truce so we can all hang out and not have any awkwardness or tension. Calling him SCARES me. We haven't spoken in four months, I don't know if I could do it. Would it be ok to send a text message??

No not at all. It was basically telling him that I was sorry for my actions and thanking him for breaking up with me, otherwise I would have never made any changes in myself. Then I wished him love, happiness and all the best in life. But there was no hint of let's talk or I want you back at all. It was kind of like, im sorry thank you goodbye. I was over it and doing well for a while. And now I feel like I would really like to see him.

We were together for over a year and he broke up with me because I was immature and jealous about really ridiculous things. We broke up in November and I needed time to realize the mistakes I was making. Now I've learned and I still miss him and love him. We haven't spoken or seen eachother since then AT ALL. I sent him a letter last month telling him apologizing and explaining to him that I understood why he made the decisions he did. But he never responded. We have mutual best friends so I know he hasn't been seeing anybody yet. I want to make contact with him and tell him how I feel but I don't want to make him mad. I would like to at least be friends still. (he's 27 and i'm 22).

Well, I haven't received a response and I doubt that I will. But at least I have some relief after sending it since it was basically an apology. I just wonder if he'll ever speak to me again. It's sad, he's just gone as if he died. I'll never see him or talk to him again most likely, and I'm still in love with him. I wish he would be friends with me at least. The hard part is that we look so much alike, when I look in the mirror all I see is him. It sucks.

Yeah that's pretty much an exact replica of the letter i mailed out yesterday. So, I guess only time will tell now. I really have learned from my mistakes and I know that if him and I were to give it another try, it would be successful and we would be so happy. I really do want him back.

We were together for over a year .. we broke up because i got lost in the relationship and i basically would smother him and we would fight about ridiculous stuff.. mostly because i was jealous and insecure and immature, which is out of character for me. . i just got lost in him for a while especially when he would pull back. his reasoning was our fights. he may have also lost that attraction because of my repulsive behavior. we were very close and in love for the time we were together.

He broke up with me about 3 months ago and of course i broke all of the rules in the beginning for about a month. so i've been doing no contact at all for 2 months. He refused to speak to me or see me so i didn't really have a choice in the matter. i sent him a letter apologizing for my actions yesterday (we fought a lot due to my immaturity). every boyfriend i've had breaks up with me but eventually comes back sooner or later. is there still hope for him to come back to me???