Okay maybe someone can tell me what I should be thinking. I'm 34 male newly single and met this super hot 24 year old bartender a couple of weeks ago.
We hit it off right from the start. She seemed like she was really into me. Asking me questions, saying things like I like the way that you think etc. Anyway I ask her for her number and she gives it to me. So we start texting each other like crazy. She says meet me for drinks before I go to work and I do, we have fun and she asks can we do it again sometime. She asks me to meet her several times for happy hour etc. Then she says she is dating someone and I do the oh okay well maybe we should stop seeing each other, then she says that no we can still see each other because she isn't very serious with him.
Come to find out the guy that she is seeing is like 60 years old and I know him from the bar where she works. I'm thinking what's the deal with this chick, here she is super hot and she is dating this guy who is even twice my age. I thought that our age difference was an issue but must not be.
Fast forward to Christmas eve and I text her and ask if she would like to meet for coffee at 1 pm. So we meet and talk for over 2.5 hours. Everything is going good, we really seem like we are into each other.
Then Christmas rolls around and I text her in the afternoon and ask her how her day is going and if she is having a good holiday. At this point we are exchanging texts back and fourth about presents what we did etc. Then comes the breaking point. I tell her that she is super hot and I have a hard time keeping my hands off of her. She replies that maybe we shouldn't be alone with each other anymore. I reply I'm willing to risk it, you? Then she replies back saying, No, when I said that I wanted to spend time with you I was not proposing anything indecent. At this point I'm thinking what have I missed, I was half joking to begin with. So I reply I wasn't proposing anything it was a joke, seems like a touchy issue. Then her reply is yes can you think why that might be a touchy issue? And I again reply saying that I know of one reason why it might be a touchy issue, referring to her 60 year old friend. She replies with just yes.
So that's where it was left, no more talking or texts since then. So what should I be thinking is this little fling over? Did I mess up by telling her I thought she was hot? We have flirted before and I told her she was attractive before and she didn't have a problem with it. Also with our talk on Christmas eve I learned that she was raised in a very religious family, but doesn't doesn't still practice it, her family still does. I guess her father was very into it, but he sounds like a jerk because she was telling me that her father told her that he doesn't love her etc. We were chatting about her 60 year old friend and why she is dating him and the entire father figure issue was discussed, she was the one who brought it up.
So what should I do, forget about her and move on, or play it cool and see what happens. Funny thing is I was playing it very cool when we met, thinking this is too good to be true, and when I start getting into it, she seems to change her mind.