sassygrl

Wow! A lot of great advice - I really appreciate it! A few days ago I emailed this woman again regarding the profession and received an answer back today from her. Although the email was friendly enough, I think I will just have to chat with her at the games to actually become friends. She is always very nice in saying to contact her for any further questions or information, so I won't feel too awkard striking up conversation at the games. I may have misread her at the meeting we had. It is just that she seemed very friendly and joked quite a bit throughout. Even joking about her mom getting on her nerves and made a few other remarks that most people don't say unless (I would think anyway) they are REALLY comfortable being around someone. The other lady in the office, who was sort of involved in the conversation, was giving us both a questioning look when she was going on about her mom. I keep trying to tell myself that is probably just her personality. Someone mentioned about going to the practices - I have already thought of that because I would like to see her "on the job", but I don't know if that would be asking too much??? It would definitely give me insight into what exactly the job entails, also. Hmmm.....I'll have to think about that one and see how things go. I think she is definitely worth waiting for and seeing what happens - it will be another week or so before I can see her at the games again. Perhaps after I talk to her a few times (if all goes well), then I may see how she reacts if I can somehow slip it in that I'm a lesbian. I really hope it works out, but if not, I certainly hope we can be friends. After observing her, sending a few emails back and forth, and meeting her, I think she's a special person and would like to get to know her in whatever capacity. Thanks again for all the advice - I'm sure it'll help me next week!!!

You know, I am really disappointed and hope that not every member posts replies like yours, mgirl. If you had read my post closely, you would have noticed that I am truly interested in this woman's job profession - I have been doing research regarding the profession and am looking at starting college for it next summer. In my email to her, before we set up the meeting, I told her that I was curious, but not for sure if I want to pursue that career. The meeting was a way for me to not only find out more about the profession and get questions answered, but to meet her as well. Considering that most of the population is straight, I thought it best to meet her and get to know her first before trying to "hit" on her. I am actually hurt that the only post I've gotten on this is one attacking my character and integrity. I honestly like the person I referred to, to the extent that if she is straight, it does not matter, because I would even want to be friends with her. Hopefully, I did not come accross as shallow, deceiving, or otherwise, because if I have, I certainly am none of those things and would not want to seem that way. I hope that you read this, mgirl, so you will not view me as being like that and will perhaps be a little more thoughtful regarding my situation.

Last month, I fell in love with a total stranger. To experience "love at first sight" is unusual for me. Here is the story....I was at a basketball game last month when I saw her for the first time. Given the fact that she works with the team, I was able to email and ask about meeting with her sometime on the pretense of being interested in her job profession. It wasn't hard to pretend because I am truly interested. So, she emailed back and told me to call her office number to set up a meeting and I did. I met with her, but still don't know if she's STRAIGHT, LESBIAN, or BI???? I was told by a mutual acquiantance that she is probably straight because she has dated men off/on, but that conversation didn't really settle my mind about it. At the meeting, she was very open and friendly, surprisingly, because at the games she came accross as being somewhat reserved and quiet. Before the meeting ended, she even informed me that I should not be too shy to approach her at games to ask any more questions (regarding the job profession) or even email her. I know it seems crazy to like someone so much and not even really know her, but when I actually got to meet her, I really feel like our personalities "clicked". Ok, so I know the sensible thing to do is talk to her at the games, but considering the fact that I don't hardly know her, don't know if she's gay, then how do I proceed? Even to become friends first, how would I go about asking her out for coffee (supposedly as a friend) without scaring her off? I have only been in one other lesbian relationship which developed from friendship, so I'm relatively knew to all this. **** Thanks for reading and hoping to get some good advice!!!!