I met this girl (she is 16 - I am 25), and recently I cant stop thinking about her. Im not eating as much as I normally do, Im dreaming about her, and I think about her a lot each day.
She was around my house last night. I suggested we started 'seeing each other' after she asked over instant messenger about possibly being more. She said 'what time is your meal tomorrow night?' .. i said '7pm'. She said 'I think I'll be back in X tomorrow afternoon do so some shopping. I said 'maybe we could meet up', she said 'yeh definitely. She then also said she would be over for my birthday (23rd).
Anyway, I think I get way too paranoid and really need some advice. We agreed to meet Tuesday but she had to cancel as she had to do college work - fine ... Weds had to cancel as she didnt feel well. We met yesterday (Friday) and she was still a bit unwell. She normally drinks quite a lot and only managed a bit. She said she had tummy pains. Descirbed it as period pains but in her stomach. Anyway ... i tried to hold her hand and she kinda moved it saying 'hold on a sec' ... comparing her nails and telling me about them. I put my arm around her and she kept leaning forward to take a drink. I had my hand on her leg and she seemed to chat normally with me.
We chatted about things and I said 'so what do you want to happen between us'. She goes 'I do like ya, its just the distance' - she catches bus and it can take 40 mins each time. She said 'like you said, see each other and see how it goes'.
We had a chat and a laugh - I can make her laugh a lot, but as I say - I am paranoid. Im hoping the fact she wasnt well was why she didnt want to be too effectionate. My sister says paranoia is a turn off, so I dont want to be paranoid, or eager! I phoned her Tuesday, Weds, and Thurs which Im sure is way too much. She rang my house phone on Friday to say she was going to catch the bus.
When we both got into the taxi to take her to the bus station, she put her hand out, I held it and she seemed like she wanted to hold my hand whilst we were in the taxi.
As we got to the station, she wasnt really wanting to be hugging, and as she left she asked if I was getting a taxi back home. I said 'come here' maybe I shouldnt have done, put my hands on her side and she said 'no Im shy', and pushed me away slightly. Can being shy make girls do this?
My mate says this is a good sign, as she is wanting to test me and see how I react to no hugging etc. I dont want to seem clingy or too interested, but the fact that I like her a lot and Im thinking about her a lot is making it SO hard.
I text her last night after she had got on the bus with
"Sorry you felt a bit down. Hope you had a
decent night. Hope we can meet up again soon. Maybe let me
know by email. Chat soon. Ste XXX"
I also emailed her with:
"ey, probablly repeatin myself lol, but do
hope you feel a slight better than you did tonight.
Be good to see you on my b/d but if not, we will have to
organise something in the new year? Maybe see you on chat
over the next week or so. Let me know.
STE
My mate Tom is giving me some advice he is basically saying things like (in chat messenger):
u shouldnt go COME HERE etc, girls r rather
shy, she likes you i can tell coz if she didnt she wouldnt
of even said that, she would of basically said go
away....leave it as.....ok had a nice time c u soon...wave
and WAIT yes and it does happen for the text msg saying the
reply
and with regards to my email + text:
leave it at
that...I KNOW ITS HARD but i bet u r dieing to text her
saying your feelings now aint you? just keep em 2 urself, u
should ALWAYS let the lass tell u how she feels first and
if u dont say a word she will be very impressed as it shows
stamina and confidence
What do you all think?
