All_By_Myself

thansk for the help guys

thanks.but 'ratherbesailing' i want to be sure of my feelings first before i do anything, also i dont want to do it before xmas, i am not heartless. im not sure if he likes me or not tho. i sit next to him in all my lessons in college, and we always play fight (not very college like i know) he always keep poking me, and starting a poking war which is fun.. not in the middle of class tho lol. and hes always taking my scarf, and he really takes interest in my jewellery, like my rings, altho my rings that fit on my thumbs, only fit the top part of his lil finger, which we all find hilarious. And when we were out on saturday his friend found out that i was ticklish, so now he knows im ticklish he wont stop tickling me lol. now i dont know if thats being good friends or wat tbh.. or whether its a sign he may like me. But i know he picks on S too but not as much.. can anyone tell from this if he may have some interest... just out of interest lol

thanks alot fairie, thats has shed some light S isnt such a close friend, ive known her as long as i have J, but i know if i ever got with J and she still felt for him, shed feel like no one likes her etc because shes not had a very good relationship history and shes a very troubled girl. plus shes in my lessons.. but im sure shell understand or something...

thanks, i wasn't actually thinking about me to be honest... its the last thing i think about usually. My past with T wasnt nessessarily happy, i think my recent doubt came from the the past being brought back up etc.. but im guna have to see how it goes.. recently as well T has been really paranoid, altho he dotn admit it, everytime im in college talking to my mate a guy called K .. he keeps going 'hanging with your bf again' and when i talk about anything about j, and when we went out saturday he says that about him too.. its really starting to piss me off tbh, but he wont tell me why he says it but about J i really gotta jus keep my thoughts to myself, and its hard, i spend everyday at college with him, he's in 3-4 of my subjects so its hard. But just thinking hypothetically, if i came to end my relationshiip with T and in time i find J likes me too and wateva, i have another problem. At college i mainly hang about with J and this girl 'S', now S has feeling for J, and has told him about how she feels and wateva,but he said no cos of his reasons of a painful break-up.. so i feel like even my feelings below the surface right now could hurt her if me and J ever got together

thanks for the advice. I would never do anything before christmas, certainly not since his bday is on christmas day too. I was thinking maybe ride it out, see how i feel in a few months, but i really gotta talk to someone about it, that i know, its killing me bottling it up..

Hey guys, i'm new to this site, but found it because i was seeking a little bit of advice or opinions. At the moment i'm in a relationship with lets say 'T', have been now for 3 years... the relationship has just come to a level point where all the real bad things have just passed, there were problems not so long ago but its all fine now.. But anyways.. ..I have a problem.. I started college in september this year and have been talking to this guy who im now good friends with... ok seems alright, but he works at a rock venue and invited me along to help but bla bla bla. Back to the point, i've been feeling things towards ..lets call him 'J', that i shouldn't but i can't help it.. and when we where out i spent near on 12 solid hours with the guy and we had to sit there waiting in the car for 2 hours, so i got to know him alot more and wateva, which really did not help. And i'm the sort of person to hug all my friends, but ive never had a hug off 'J' until saturday night because i thought he was .. what i call 'huggaphoebic' but i got a few hugs in that night, as well from his friend but hes a mate.. and i felt really close to him, and he actually makes me happy, basically all the time, and when i think of him i smile.. Well right now i can't get him off my mind, just wondering what would happen if i were single (like in a parallel universe lol) But at the same time i know i can;t feel this way and ive tried just not thinking about it but i can't help the way i feel. Its really bad! OK about me and 'T': I've been through alot with 'T', quite rough times in the past which was brought up when i started college when his ex started there when i did ('t' goes to my college too) and alot of things kicked off and i found out things like when he dumped me a year ago that he'd went to see her and wateva, which i never knew/ so you can imagine ive been feeling betrayed. But with all that behind us now, things are fine/ no arguments, depression spots or anything. But we dont go out anymore like we used to, and tbh its driving me mad having a routine and staying in all the time ](*,) So ive been questioning over the last 2 or 3 weeks whether i actually love 't' anymore or whether its just the convienience of us two being together wise, friends wise, we live close etc etc.. Plus i dont want to hurt him either, its christmas aswell and we have all these plans for next year and wateva and i dont know what to do. But i do have these feelings for 'J'... Can anyone shed a lil light on this deep dark patch of mine? All_By_Myself thanks for your time