Hello all,
About a month ago my husband was on a business trip overseas and slept with another women. We have been married for three years and this was a huge shock since we have had small problems but nothing like this. He came home immediately and told me about it. When he came in he wanted to get the divorce. I supect it was due to the fact that he thought I was going to want the divorce and he was preparing for it because now he has changed his mind.
For the last month I have started personal counseling. My husband said he would consider going to a counselor but wasnt thrilled about it. The counselor I am seeking says we need to talk with someone together. I dont want to make my husband go if he isnt willing too. I know some couples have been able to work through infidelity without seeking outside help from a counselor.
He says he loves me and was extremely sorry for what he did. We actually have been getting along better and been talking about problems as they arrise instead of ignoring them. However, now he is scheduled for another business trip and I am still fearful of him cheating again. I have tried my hardest not to constantly remind him how I feel about the situation and just talk about how we can prevent this from happening again. I am affraid if I hold it over his head we will grow even futher apart.
I guess I just need some advice on where to go from here. I want to trust him again but I feel like I am going to go crazy while he is gone. I know there is a lot of love between us still otherwise I dont think we would be willing to work on staying together. Any suggestions would help.
Thanks,
cynsweet
