Hi,
Please help me! I am a man aged 42, i have been with my partner for 6 years and we have a little girl aged 3 between us.
This past year we have been having some real problems in our relationship, mostly do to me being possesive, jealous and controlling. The thing is i couldn't see this, my partner kept pointing it out in the hope that i could change this potentially damaging behavior of mine, but as i said i couldn't see what i was doing wrong....Anyway, in the past 2 months my partner just seemed to go off the rails so to speak, she was going out, and in some cases stopping out all night at a mans house (who she insists is a friend,) but i didn't like this and my jealously became worse, the worse i got the worse she got.
until, eventually something had to give, unfortunately it was my partner, she ended up in hospital with clinical depression....she was in for a month and has now come out.
Whilst she was in the hospital i had talked about how during our relationship i seemed to be in a darkened room, but now it's as though someone has swithched the lights on to enable me to see where i was going wrong (all the things she had pointed out in fact) and i am seeing a councillor to help me get over them.
She came out of hospital, but did not come home, she went to stay at her man friends house to try and sort her head out as to what she wants, we have briefly talked since she has been there, and she says she really misses me, and really loves me, but is scared to come home in case we start off from where we ended up(i understand this)....i love her deeply, and desperately want her to come back home...i am at a loss of what to do to convince her to come home and try again, and to see that things will be different.
The thing is, everything i try to do to patch things up she talks over with her man friend who then convinces her not to come home as i won't change (he doesn't even know me)
She has no where else to stay at the moment apart from with him.....
Please help me, how do i get her back, i feel like i'm dying!
Nick
