mayflower28

Actually he asked how my exams went and I responded, then I asked him how he's doing. His replies are really short, it makes no sense at this point. If he asks me something more I'll simply state I'll answer him to that when we meet & I'm gonna leave it at that. I ain't chasing that clown. Men, please for the love of god leave women alone when you don't intend to ask them out again.

Yeah, seems like breadcrumbing. I don't get why people do that, if you're not interested just leave me alone. Attention is fun but honestly it's messed up to use someone for an ego boost if you're not into them.

What's funny is that he has actually messaged me an hour ago. It's still some chit chat though and now I think I should just wait for him to suggest a proper date. However, after all the things you guys have written in here I'm more hesitant to get involved.

Exactly, I want to avoid a situation with him just going with the flow. It's like he would only agree because I asked but I feel if he needs a nudge it's not worth it. I texted him first in the past, it happened twice. So far the effort in texting has been more or less equal. We're both 20. I have gone on a lot of dates but haven't been in a long term relationship yet. He might reach out again or he might not, if he does I'll have to tell myself not to take him seriously and let him prove himself. He knows I'm eager because I literally told him I'll gladly see the photos. Yes, his initial snarky response was weird to me too.

Hi, recently I met a guy on OLD and it's actually the first time I have no doubts that I like the guy and wanna continue seeing him. He asked me out first on the app and he also paid for my meal. He had initiated some calls before the date too but he'd got a little mad when I told him I was busy with exams. He was like 'if you don't have 2 hours to spare we probably shouldn't continue'. I explained to him how much work I had and he understood. Finally the date happened and it went well, we have similar interests and stuff in common. During the date he already mentioned where he would take me on the next. After I came back home he reached out and we had a little chat. A few days later I messaged him asking when he's available for the second date and I mentioned the activity he wanted us to do. He gave me a day, I agreed. The second date was fun too, he paid for both our tickets to the exhibition. Then we went for a walk in the park, sat together and talked. He told me 'we will do this and this' blah blah (as in like future activities after our relationship progresses). He mentioned about me coming over to his house (he didn't say netflix & chill, just kind of had an excuse for an activity we could do together at his place). I know it sounds hookup-like, however I'm not ready to have sex yet, I can kiss but not more. As for physical contact we only hugged and held hands so far. I'm still okay with the idea of coming over though, since I could just refuse and say I'm not ready yet in case he tries some moves. Right after that last date I texted him and he asked how I was doing etc. A few days later he texted, telling me he was on a trip, again asked me how I was. He mentioned in his texts 'when we see each other I will show you the photos from my trip' and I was like 'oh yes, I will also show you the photos from one of my past trips, it was so beautiful there'. Then we had a little more exchange and I had nothing to add so our conversation stopped. My concern here is that everything seems great but after he reached out with these texts like 5 days ago I haven't heard from him. He has mentioned future activities which is a good sign, but I'm just wondering why he hasn't asked me when I'm free to come over, since last time I was the one to make the 2nd date happen by asking when he's available. Does he want me to chase him now, so putting the ball in my court? Should I initiate a text about concrete plans or is he not interested enough to make it happen? I really rarely initiate texts by myself because I'm not sure if he's all that into me. It just makes no sense that he would talk about what we will do so many times and yet not step forward to actually make it happen and try to 'bait' me instead.