So my new housemate and I really like each other.
I've only known her for a week, but we seem to have so many things in common and I'm falling in love with her.
Now, I just got out of an abusive relationship. I feel like meeting my housemate and going to live with her, just the two of us, is one of the best things ever happened to me, because she respects me and she's very nice to me.
My dilemma is that I don't know if I should tell her how I feel. It just seems way too early for that, because I want to take things slow and heal from the recent breakup, which she doesn't know about, but at the same time I would like to let her know that I'm available and interested in her romantically. However, I'm scared that she might not want a relationship with me.
One of the very first things she asked me, when we first met, was if I was single and looking for a relationship—she immediately said that she wasn't going to be dating, and I replied the same. This was the truth at the time, since I was completely overwhelmed by the breakup and I genuinely had no intention of dating another woman anytime soon.
Things have changed now that I started developing feelings for her, but I really don't know if I should communicate that.
One thing that's unclear to me is if she actually likes me romantically, or if she just likes me as a housemate. I wonder if what she said about the dating was simply to set boundaries as housemates, or if it was actually a subtle way of agreeing to monogamy from the very start.
Could this be a possible interpretation or am I reading this wrong?