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I think the core of why I’m saying this is because he’s better at the job then I am (hence the higher rank) so inside I’m wondering if I have something to offer him in return. But yes you are right.

For context, I work in a paramilitary type job where dating coworkers is not allowed. I am a good looking female in my 30s (in terms of beauty I’m 8-9 out of 10 depending on the day). I’m a kind, introverted person and my work performance is average, nothing special. the guy I like is a couple ranks above me and we work closely together. he is good at his job but has his own flaws like me. But again we work together in an official capacity and there’s definitely a power imbalance. He’s considering leaving the job soon, and I’ve hinted to him that I like him and he’s gotten the message. My gut feeling says that he’s interested but can’t show it (or doesn’t know the extent of how I feel) but again I’m not sure. I am considered to be very good looking and many people in general would call me a catch. Me and him have various things in common (music and tv taste, introverted and rebellious personality) but the fact that he’s seen my mistakes at work (successes too) makes me skiddish. how do I got about getting him to date me?

I can’t tell if I did something very bad or not so bad. I’m a woman on a very affectionate coed sports team. My (female) friend/teammate and I smack each other on the butt to show affection. I wasn’t thinking and accidentally, spur of the moment did the same thing to my male teammate. It’s been a few days and in hindsight I feel awkward about it, It wasn't sexual, and I’ve never made that mistake before. we all are almost like a family, so I can’t tell if I’m overreacting, but now I feel shame. For context, he’s a really chill guy and hasn’t approached me about it. Should I talk to him (what would mostly likely be an awkward conversation) and apologize or just let it go?