lovergal

I think people on this forum must be 50+

I feel like I'm just repeating myself over and over again lol Telling an anxious person to not be anxious isn't helpful. But thank you for all your suggestions. He hasn't even texted me since this morning so idk what is going on lol but time will tell. And I will just wait and see how it goes.

well clearly that didnt work out for you if you had to meet 100 men.... lol I couldn't meet up for one weekend. i think you guys are more butthurt than he was. he couldnt make it this week. so hopefully we can meet another time.

i agree. im an anxious person in general. like i just wanna meet up already but i think that itself is giving me anxiety because i think he's not going to make it. and im usually right

Yes, I tried to reschedule lol so we text pretty much the same thing every single day. so he texts me good morning, and then we talk about work and then what we had for dinner and then the next day its repeat My friends have told me I am a dry texter so maybe it is on me? idk I noticed when I had a flat tire and more to talk about then we texted more

I feel so weird asking him to call me - I feel like he should be doing that if he wants to lolll

So I would take naps everyday after work and as a joke i told him to call me after work so I dont fall asleep and he did it once but thats about it lol

Even though I said I was busy (which idk why everyone is ringing this over my head. do you guys not have lives???) I still created convo and still made effort. I didn't just end the convo. I also made suggestions on where we should go and other available days that would work. I think the convos weve had lately are just pretty much the same talk. so maybe hes tired of it idk

Yeah I guess so. I just feel like he's not even want to meet up with me lol

So last week I asked him what he was doing the weekend of Oct 7th and he's like I don't even know what I'm doing next week and I'm like oh youre not a planner, like you dont plan ahead? and he's like no i go week by week and i plan my weeks every sunday lol yesterday, there was this new halloween maze that opened up like 2 hours from us and he said he was down to go lol but those are just words

what was the question?

We both agreed mutually to go to the halloween maze. So I asked him last week what he was doing next next weekend (not this weekend coming up - the weekend after) and he said that so far ahead - he plans his weeks out week by week lol

I think everyone's anxious attachment is different. for me its the unknown. at first I didn't realllly like him - like we were talking but I didn't read much into it but then we spoke on the phone and i really liked his vibe and the convo and we had a looot in common and then I guess from there because I had interest in him I started picking up on things like how often he replied and stuff like that but thats because I am interested. The anxiousness comes from him not communicating well and not texting me a lot (he still has not responded to the 10AM text) but then to try to calm my anxiety I tell myself that we havent even met and just focus on the communication after we met. But then also my anxiety tells me he doesnt even want to meet me - hes leading me on. its just a lot of anxiety and overthinking.

So we were texting for a few weeks and i had no sudden interest in him, it was just whatever. then one night he called me and it was way better than texting. like we just clicked and we had a lot in common as well and from there i was like wow i really liked that convo, i'm interested in meeting him asap.

So he says he's not a planner and plans his week every sunday lol

Clearly you don't know what anxious attachment is. Google it.

My first reaction when guys get distant is just to back off so there's no "rejection" lol

Ok... so if he texts I should reply? I was thinking of backing off until next week lol

Yes- that's how I feel! I mean thats what anxious attachment normally is. Thank you! I needed that!! 🙂

omg youre so harsh and miserable lol but ok....

Last week, I was busy with family stuff, work and school. I also had a flat tire and had to get my car fixed which took 2 days. Then I had my period. I suffer from endometriosis so when I'm on my period - I can barely leave the house from all the pain/bleeding . So no... I did not have 30 mins. l'm usually not a busy person and can easily make time but last week I just couldn't. But I'm free this week (he's not free) and next week. I'm not sure what his attachment style is. But I get a sense that he thinks the texts are getting boring. So I was thinking of randomly calling him tonight before bed. But idk if its too much

I completely agree. He's busy this week with a work trip so hopefully I can see him next week. He messaged me last week asking when he could see me but I was busy last week.

Hey guys! I started talking to this guy a few weeks ago. We met off a dating app but we haven't met in person yet. We text daily and we talked on the phone twice. I am slowing getting interested in him and unfortunately, that has spiked my anxious attachment and I don't know what to do. Here are some context: Sometimes when we text - he texts back quick but sometimes hes slow... but today for example the last text sent was by me at 10am and it is now almost 4pm and he posted something on social media awhile ago. He says he wants something serious but he goes out a lot like partying When we talk on the phone - its great! The convo goes sooo smooth and we could be talking for an hour but it feels like 20 mins Last friday - he randomly called me while he was driving, which I appreciated Our texts are pretty much the same everyday (good morning, hows work, what are you up to) He is busy this week and I want to see him next weekend (the plan is to go to some halloween maze - he said he was down but idk I'm always thinking the worst) I feel like I should just pull away. He doesn't seem interested. And I already am getting anxious and in the past that never works out for me. Or I was thinking of just pulling away and then texting him next week to make plans. How can I make our texts interesting? Or how can I work on communicating better? Any advice?

i feel like there are other issues in your relationship... you didnt know he was gonna introduce you as his gf after 5 years? lol what????

I told him how I felt and how we can reconnect after the 8 months. He said he's still here now but he understood where I was coming from. After that he responded to my snapchats (it was my cousins bday and he was like where was my invitation - as a joke) but thats about it.