I work remotely in a tech environment. Most contact with my team happens either in chats or Zoom. We're a very friendly group, and socialize all the time. Have our own private chat for nonsense, and during quiet hours will jump on a call together to keep each other company.
The newest member of our team is a really outgoing guy, fit in with our madness really easily. I got along with him immediately due to similar senses of humor. At least online. When we finally met in person for the first time...not so much. He was very standoffish with me and I guessed maybe we just didn't get on as well as I'd thought. I AM a bit shy face-to-face so that probably added to it.
We continued to have our banter in chats and calls, and then last weekend we met for the third time. Our team went to an arcade/bar on an outing, and at first he started more or less the same. I was a bit more relaxed, so I made a bit more of an effort to speak with him, and he would respond but nothing more. OK, fine. I went off with another coworker to play some games.
It's important to note now that the rest of us are very tactile. We've just known each other for so long that an arm will easily go around each other, we'll hug, etc. Him not so much. Again he's new so maybe he's not there yet, or maybe he's not touchy. However, the longer we stayed there the more I noticed him in my space. It started with looming/watching over my shoulder as I played something. Then brushing/being shoulder-to-shoulder as we were all talking. Sure, it was a bar and got crowded quickly, but it started to seem more and more deliberate. At one point four of us were sitting at a table and he fully had his legs spread, crotch on display, one foot against my chair on the outside. Like I had to step over it to get to the bathroom.
I know alcohol can be a factor in some of these things, so just left it alone. Maybe he didn't notice he was doing it or didn't see the harm. Though I AM worried it might give the wrong impression to the rest of our team.
Leaving, I may have also made things more awkward. He walked me to the door as he was going for a smoke. I turned to say bye, to find him leaning on the wall, hands in pockets, looking me over. At least he had the decency to stop as soon as I caught him but, not knowing what to do, I offered a hug. I guess I could have used that to ask *** he was doing, but just didn't know how to react.
Do you think the above is enough to call him out on? Or am I thinking too much into it? I like him well enough as a person, so I'll definitely take it up with him before anything else, but I'm just not sure how to handle it. Should I wait for more before reacting?