I found an old HS BF on Facebook while looking for someone else. We're not young. I'm in my late 60s and he's a bit older. We started chatting, catching up, and he told me his wife has early Alzheimer's. We chatted for about 3 months, but he kept trying to take the conversation to sex, and I told him I wasn't interested in talking about that, because I'm not one to commit adultery. I'm not very religious, I just don't believe in it morally. We went through some ups and downs, because we started having feelings for each other, but he couldn't stop wanting sex, so we broke it off. We live about 8 hours drive apart, and he wanted to fly me up there and put me in a hotel just so we could have sex. Mind you, he works for himself, but I would have been stuck at a hotel all day waiting to spend a couple of hours with him, and being alone all night while he went home to his family. He saw nothing wrong with this. I was appalled! Of course, I said no. We finally decided to stop communicating at all. I tried to send him an e-card for Christmas, and he was absolutely hateful about it. He blames all of this on me, when it was his obsession with sex that really did it in. I only ever wanted to be friends.
Things got a lot more complicated during one part, and friends got involved. He blames all that on me too. After our last conversation, I blocked him everywhere on social media and my phone and emails. It ended for good just a couple of days before Christmas, and I'm having a hard time not contacting him. He has no way to contact me unless he uses a burner phone or something to text me. I blocked his phone # and he used his wife's phone at one time, so I blocked that too. He called me last night from a "Private" caller ID, but I have an app that traces them, so I know it was him. He didn't say anything, but I said that he was the one who made the no contact rule, so please just leave me alone. He called three times in 5 minutes, then didn't call again.
I know I should forget him. He's obviously not the sweet, shy boy I knew in HS, far from it. In fact, he has a bad temper and is very controlling. I fear he's a little narcissistic the way he keeps blaming everything on me even when some events were clearly his fault.
So I just need encouragement that I'm right, that I should just let him go. He told me once that if "anything changed" with his wife (meaning she died), he'd be on my doorstep. Sadly, I can't keep him from doing that, so I'm just praying she stays healthy for quite a while, or he forgets that statement.