I am so ticked off I can't see straight. Soon after suffering a crushing breakup with a guy I was crazy about but whose selfishness made a relationship with him impossible, I met a great, wonderful guy who thinks I'm the cat's pajamas. He feels total chemistry for me....considers me gorgeous and doesn't hesitate to tell me often...loves spending time with me...is extremely gentle and affectionate and I absolutely love the way he touches me. Problem is, I simply am not attracted to this guy.
I don't like the way he kisses me at all...I feel like he's trying to harpoon me with his tongue. I mean, seriously...it's gross. I've considered being honest and telling him this, but don't know if it would help with my feelings...and if it didn't, what have I accomplished except hurting his feelings?
We had sex once, which, in hindsight, I think, was my way of seeing if perhaps the attraction would "kick in." But I realized immediately afterward that that wasn't wise, and I told him several days later that, while I thought I was ready for that, I realized that I wasn't and that we need to back off of that. He was extremely gracious and understood.
I honestly don't know what to do. I am 37 years old. Never married. No kids. The dating pool has become full of recent divorcees who are either on the fast-track to finding a new girlfriend and bypassing the pain of dealing with their loss (and punishing her later for it) or guys so emotionally damaged they really aren't good dating prospects. It's not good. This guy is neither. He's a great communicator, sensitive, emotionally available, generous....pretty much everything I'm looking for in a guy that I thought no longer existed.
What should I do?!?!?!?!
Avalon
