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DN, I wondered about his being able to keep an erection during anal but not vaginal myself... it's a mystery to me, really. I have a good friend who has been a FWB in the past and when I shared this with him, he was mystefied. He made it really clear that I am not lacking there and that it's obvious that I do my kegels on a regular basis Iam, I thought that it was selfish as well. Frankly I just havent known him long enough to know if this would continue if I let it. Typically I have thought of oral sex as a foreplay kind of thing with an occasional situation like this. jna, I think your right about consulting the doctor - now with the scare that these drugs can cause blindness, I imagine that maybe he's not wanting to take it too often. As everyone mentioned, the bottom line is that we TALK about this. I need to find out if he's even interested in straight sex; never mentioned that he wasnt but I'm assuming that everyone likes that the most - perhaps I'm wrong about it. I would say a good mix would be about 70% intercourse, 25% oral and 5% anal (if that). Not that I'd be there taking a tally but you know what I mean One thing is for sure, I'm not going to continue this if this is how he needs things to be.

I'll try to be as clear here as possible but feel free to ask questions. I'm really looking for some feedback here and hope that you can help. I signed up for an internet dating site and began a month long conversation relationship with a man who temporarily lives out of the state that I'm in. He made it really clear that he was "into me" and came here to see me and get some stuff done about three weeks ago (he has another week left before he goes back). His plan is to finish out his contract and come back here to be with me. He was very up front with me that due to a medication and medical condition he has, he has a really hard time getting an erection and needs to take viagra in order to have sex. After reading up on Viagra, I thought that maybe this didnt need to be an issue and decided to see if we had something. We met IRL the day after he came here and have seen each other nearly every day since. We started out kissing and touching and it was pretty hot - after several days of this we were kissing on my couch and I ended up giving him oral sex. He expressed that he was shocked that he even got an erection and came because it was just not something that could happen in the past. The next time we were together he gave me oral and I recipocated, all good... right? Now don't get me wrong, I love oral sex and all that but I want intercourse more often. He tried for a second to do that and it seemed like he got soft and couldnt. We went out one night and he stood close behind me and whispered in my ear that he wanted to have anal sex (not in those words but far more graphic). Anyway, I figured that with enough lube I'd try it and when we got back to my place we did - it was good for the most part and not uncomfortable. Actually I was surprised as hell that I even liked it. We've been together a few more times and each time, he wants oral sex. Not the kind I'm used to which is me doing most of the action but where he grabs my hair forcefully and pumps. Initially I was taken aback but got used to it. It was kind of a turn on to have him not be so passive, etc. He is no longer kissing me much at all and I'm feeling like perhaps he has intimacy problems in addition to his medical one. Oral and Anal sex arent very intimate by nature or are they? He's going back in a week and wants to get an exclusivity kind of agreement from me and I'm not sure if I want to go further into a relationship with someone who can't just have intercourse. He didnt take his viagra at all during this time and I was going to ask him to take it but now I've started my period (DAMN!!!!) so that may hinder us getting down and doing it. I'm wondering what your thoughts on this are? I plan on talking to him frankly about this but it would help to have input first.