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My husband and I were having sex one night when he thought he had "let a little go". That freaked him out and he lost his erection. He says he's never felt that out of control before and it alarmed him. The next couple of times he's had a problem getting it up, although he doesn't seem to have a problem when he's mastrubating, and still has the morning erection. I thought things were getting better and then last night he was "ready to go" and completely lost it during foreplay, and it wasn't coming back. What to think? What to do? It seems like the more we talk about it, the worse it gets.

I'm at a loss. My husband and I have been married for two years. Up until now we have had a pretty good sex life. Then he went to Vegas for a business trip, came back at 4:30 in the morning four days later. I tried to make a move on him, and he rejected me. Only to head onto the computer and "have fun by himself". Since then, he hasn't been able to get it up a few times. He says he's been tired. Then we when did have sex, and it's only been once, it was really fast. Whereas normally, he tries to last. He says my little comments don't help, but what am I supposed to think? Tonight I came home from a movie, tried to make a move on him at bedtime, only to be told that "it would take awhile" as he'd had a little too much fun with himself while on the computer. Exactly three times. How concerned should I be? I have asked him if he's cheating on me, he says no. I have asked him if he still loves me, still cares for me just as much... he says he does. How serious should I be taking this? It's been a week since he's been back, and the more this drags on , the worse it seems to get. The more I try to talk about it, the worse it gets. The stranger we become with one another. I'm torn between thinking it's me and anxiety and that he's really sending me messages that he's not interested anymore.