A man instant messaged me and I had no idea who he was. I told him that I don't chat with strangers. He kind of explained that he just wanted to talk and meet people and that he wasn't a perv or anything. He seemed sincere so I chatted with him.
I didn't expect to hear from him again but a week later I got another instant message. We continued chatting casually a couple times a week.
Nothing sexual -- just pure friendship. We then started talking on the phone. When school let out for summer vacation, because he was a teahcher, he had a lot of time on his hand and suggested that we meet for coffee. I agreed. I'm 42 and he's 43.
We met at a Starbucks and had a very nice time talking.
Now all through this he is very much aware that I am married and have no children. I am also very much aware that he is married with two teenagers at home.
When my husband and I got back from a 2-week vacation, this guy starts to turn up the pressure for something more than a friendship.
At first I ignored his advances, just blew them off. Then we be friends again like nothing happened.
I don't know why I just didn't cut him off right then and there but he managed to convince me that we could be just friends and that he was sorry for coming on so strong.
It went back to the way things were, just us being friends.
My husband has always been there for me, no matter what, but he has never been a great communicator. Some days I'm lucky if he says more than 10 words to me.
So this guy fills that communication void that I am missing.
Problem is the pressure that this teacher is pushing on me for a hug, a kiss, sexual favors is immense. He's gotten so good at manipulating me, knowing that I love his company and our conversations.
I know this has to stop but it's like a rollercoaster that I can't get off.
I make up my mind to say enough -- don't call, don't email, don't instant message me, but I end up walking away and somehow he has convinced me that we are just friends and we're doing nothing is wrong.
How do I stop this passive/agreesive behavior?
How do I get rid of him and not let him manipulate me?
Any suggestions??????????
