Finally got the courage to ask my boyfriend why he was still in contact on such a frequent basis with his ex. Basically, I just calmly said "Can I please talk to you about something?" He said "what" and I replied "(his ex's name)". He just sat there...no comment. So I said "Do you still have feelings for her?" He mumbled something, I think it was "no". I then stated "you know you gave me your cell phone bill to pay the other nite and I noticed that you call her quite frequently sometimes several times a day?....I have no problem with you having a friendship, but I felt like there could be something more and I need for you to tell me if there is...I have a right to know" He replied "we don't see each other, we just talk" Then he got up and started to do some laundry and it was obvious that he was mad by the slamming of things. He finally walked back in the room and said "well you have your answer....anything else you would like to know?" And I said " just whether or not you have enough respect for me that if you felt you wanted to be with her or someone else you would let me know first instead of going behind my back" He said yes then told me to leave...which I did....haven't heard from him since...2 days. I told myself that if he said there was nothing going on I would believe him and trust in that. However, his reaction to this and the fact that he has stayed in very frequent contact with someone that he said was having him followed and watched as well as me followed and watched just does not add up. I just don't understand why someone would even stay in communication with someone they thought was watching every move they made. Now I don't know what to do.
Thanks for everyone's previous input on my first post.