BluJuice

yes.. it not only grosses me out, but it infuriates me. I know I deserve better, it's just so much harder said than done ya know?

we've already talked about it.. he says he wants to be with me once I figure out what it is that I want. He says I need to stop pushing him away.. but I don't think his actions are showing it. Why would he want me to move in with him if he is looking to get laid by other girls? That just doesn't make any sense to me.

So here's the story.. my b/c and I have been dating for about a year and half now.. Before I was with him, I was engaged to be married to a guy who wanted thought I was his entire world.. needless to say, things didn't work out between us and I met Mr. new guy. When we first started dating, he said he wasn't a relationship type guy and he didn't want anything serious. After a few months of dating, he started getting more serious talking about having kids and getting married. The guy I used to be with was a girl's guy and the guy I am with now is a guy's guy. Wel needless to say it definitely got some getting used to. My ex-fiance has been and still wants to get back together. I went though several months of feeling torn between the two. During that time, my new guy and I broke up on a weekly basis (just about). And now I realize that the problems that broke my ex and I apart will most likely not change. I've settled on making things work with my new guy. Ironicaly, when I decide to set all he past aside and focus on us, I find he has a personal's ad online for an "intimate encounter". Basically, he just wants to find a girl to get laid with. I'm not sure if he's actually found someone, but I'm not sure how to approach this. On one hand, I did put him though some tough times breaking up with him on a routine basis. Now he says I'm not sure what it is I want and is more tentative about settling down with me. On the other hand, we are trying to work things out. I don't think it's right for him to be looking for someone else when he wants to move in together and acts like we are working things out and still going to get married. Do I have justification for being upset? Should I bring it up to him? If so, how? I'd really appreciate any advice anyone can give.