Ok, here's the scoop, I'm a 16 yr old girl, going to be a high school senior when school opens back up in August. A few months ago a guy I know (a friend of a friend, I guess you would say, I didn't know him very well at the time) asked me out, but I declined. At the time he was really cool about it, even invited me over to hang out with his friends a few weeks later.
Well, I don't know for sure if I would have normally continued to hang out with these guys, they're cool and all, but I already had friends at the time. I kept hanging out with them, though, because I started to have the strangest attraction to one of the guys, who also happens to be the older brother of the guy that asked me out. It was back in March or early April that I started feeling that way about him, and he didn't even have a clue until less than a week ago. I guess one of the other guys picked up on my attraction to him and told him.
Well, there were a couple of reasons (beyond the fact that I'm pretty shy) that I never told this guy how I felt about him. He's nearly 3 years older than I am, so 'technically' I am not 'legal' for him. But more importantly... I felt like having any kind of relationship with him would hurt the younger brother severely, and it turns out I was probably right.
The night that he found out I had feelings for him, the younger brother left the house, and didn't come back for at least 20 mins, and when he did he looked as if he had been crying (I guess he has a history of being hurt by such things, and he might even have suicidal tendencies, but I can't say I've ever asked him about that one).
I still haven't figured out if the older brother feels the same way about me (we talked about the situation very briefly, but he didn't seem to express much of an opinion of me either way, that's the trouble with two shy people trying to hook up I guess, lol), and I know that I have to do that before anything else. If he does in fact like me, then I have to figure out what to do about his brother. I guess he still has feelings for me (obviously), and I think that my becoming involved with his older bro would tear him apart. I really don't want to hurt anyone here, but I just don't know if I can suppress my feelings for this guy for much longer.
If the guy doesn't like me, or we determine that a relationship would be impossible without severely hurting so many people, what can I do to move on? Severing contact with my crush would be extremely difficult, this group of friends are pretty much all I hang out with over the summer (all of my other friends are out of town). Please, any advice about this situation would be GREATLY appreciated.
