mical

On 2/13/2022 at 7:25 PM, kim42 said:

I like men who are smart, easy-going, with an open mind and a good sense of humor. And they should like travelling. I don't think I am too demanding.

That sounds like me where can I send my application?  kidding kidding couldn’t resist 

Sorry to hear about your situation. I came across this quote about boundaries I think makes a lot of sense.

Not saying you never had boundaries, I think you are absolutely right here.

Seems the only people who get upset about them probably would be benefiting from another not having them.

So why not ask him if he wants to have a conversation in person and go for a coffee ☕️?
 

Can’t be that difficult right? 🙂 
 

Lots of scams out there. There’s even one where a girl (fake?) will ask a guy to go on WhatsApp (hack his contacts list) get him to do something inappropriate ehm on camera and then threaten to send to all his contacts unless pays $$

6 hours ago, kim42 said:

He didn't ask me out, but we would talk a lot, and he was also all over my social media, so I thought he might be interested, but maybe I have read too much into these signals. 

I think he probably likes you but is just shy / doesn’t want to get rejected.

It’s very common you will hear of a guy pretending to be a “friend” in hopes a girl he likes will be interested.

If he’s talking with you lots and all over your social media I think it speaks enough for itself 🙂🙂

Why not suggest you both meetup and talk over a cup of ☕️?

You’ll be fine. Appreciate you have a nice guy that enjoys talking and getting to know you on a personal level and everything will work out 🙂 

I agree also that it’s about pandemic so it can still pick up.

I’d personally work a second job and keep the business on the side, not depend on it for any income right away, while still trying to improve and get better with job #1.

Then as things start to improve with the business overtime you can work less and less in the other job.

Having a mentor could be helpful. Maybe look at seminars, workshops, classes, and eventually you’ll find someone who will show you the strategy.

A quote that I like from the book Awaken the Giant Within is 

“to be successful in an area, find someone who already is, learn their strategy and replicate it.”

I personally don’t see anything creepy.

It’s just an outrageous silly thing to say probably just trying to see your reaction.. 

But if you feel you don’t have the same sense of humour and don’t like way he texts then just stop writing with him I guess as I sense he may just become very annoying for you?

I could be wrong tho…

Easiest is to sit close by him and say you won’t be at next class and if he could send you the notes, then give your contact details…

If he does a good job you can say thanks and that you owe him a drink / coffee in return 

Then later you can always suggest studying together.

1 hour ago, maritalbliss86 said:

 

Try to stay under the radar... just do what you have to do, and try to get out of there, or make it to the 3 months.

Yep I’ll just stick to my plan of being the most neutral and boring person in the room 🥱

Depends on the subject you are studying and employment goal I’d say. 
 

There are plenty of flexible options. I decided to get back to studying, but I was able to find an online course from the UK 🇬🇧 that’s flexible. 
 

Maybe something similar could work? But it depends on the field of study. I’ll also be working full time, this will just be something extra…

Nice ending:

Just had yearly performance with my “real” teamleader yesterday (great timing!) and he’s super happy and said hopes it will continue! 🙂

Coworker came out of his review with a smile on his face. He then whispered to our coworker - “Do you know what he did?! He wrote HR to put ‘Mark’ as the team leader!” and the other said “that’s sooooo good!!”

Mark said he’s sorry what happened and he will be the teamleader going forward..the other will just advise but doesn’t have even in contract to be a people manager anyway…

But….

just 15 minutes ago she came to my desk and brought me a cake 🍰 

Yes, I was hungry and ate it. She had a smile on her face (for first time in months) and when she left my colleague said “maybe it’s poisoned” and so I said to my coworker and boss - “Any of you guys want to switch plates?” And they both responded - “hell no no way!”

Yes, I ate the cake. I heard her laugh in the other room 5 mins after.

Well if this is the last post from me, you all will know what happened 😂🤷‍♂️ 🤦‍♂️ 

18 hours ago, catfeeder said:

CongrAts, Mical!

Skip the guilt, and embrace the idea that sometimes rocking the boat is what creates the miracle.

Thank you 🙂 Exactly, at least it will make the situation better for now.

It still makes me a bit sad though that after I reported someone for bullying and harassment they promoted that person as my boss and kept it hidden from me for 3+ months and apparently that person even wrote my performance review…

My friend the other day said it showed a lack of respect and value towards me that they would hide who my team leader is, especially after the abuse, so this makes me a bit sad. Now almost everyone quit so I guess they really need me now..

I’ll start sending out resumes for something better. At least I won’t feel so guilty leaving.

48 minutes ago, Rose Mosse said:

Excellent. I was quietly hoping this would be the case as well. 

Thanks so much that means a lot 🙂 

44 minutes ago, boltnrun said:

Ah, OK. This YouTuber also traveled through those areas as well. He's been so many beautiful places it's hard to keep track!

I would love to visit Eastern Europe but sadly I suffer from extreme motion sickness. I can't be on an airplane for more than an hour or two at most. Breaking up the trip into two hour flights would be inconvenient and expensive.

Yeah I don’t like flying either. Most of these places can be reached by train and I noticed recently on www.Skyscanner.net there are some flights now for 12 €…  

The pictures with the views are in Vienna, Austria at this nice restaurant —>https://www.oceansky.at The view was priceless.

The other is in Prague at the Old Town and also the view is from the castle area called Hradcany.

The little town in the forest is a beautiful place called Mariánské Lázně on the boarder of Germany. Not many people know about it, but Its super nice and property is maybe 1/3 the price of Germany. 

Hi,

So I had a post a while ago about this malignant narcissistic coworker that was saying hateful threatening things to me, I stood up for myself and reported on her to stop the abuse.

Turns out she’s now my boss and has been on paper for the last month they just tried to keep it hidden to avoid any issues…

She was attacking me and others again this week so I contacted HR to make sure they update the organizational chart with my REAL team leader who (I’ll say Mark in this case).

So Mark just called me and said 

“well I don’t want to rock the boat but technically she is your team leader but if she does anything you can tell me anytime”

The amount of abuse this person inflicts on others is not normal so I asked if I could switch teams, he said since someone else is leaving they really need me to do what I do now PLUS maybe 50% more…

My notice period is 3 months. I’m now considering just resigning instead of having to deal with abuse…

I have emergency fund savings to support myself so even if I do quit now I’ll be ok no matter what.

This person is pure evil. Like working for the devil himself.

Would you suggest I just quit as give my 3 months notice? 

Does he have any good qualities?

This is also a very lovely place 

Caught a beautiful sunset the other day 🙂

2 hours ago, Batya33 said:

My friend met his spouse through craigslist because they had a mutual interest in cycling.  They met as cycling partners.  To me meeting in person is much better than online dating 

That’s really nice 🙂 My friend met her partner through dance classes. Seems much more romantic and interesting than an app.  

1 hour ago, melancholy123 said:

 

Your main option is to tell Freddy the Freeloader goodbye! There is NO OTHER OPTION!

He’s not freeloading from her. They don’t even live together.

She is just worried he doesn’t save his money as much as she would like which is causing worry if they “were” to move in together which hasn’t happened.

This is just about thinking - how can a guy not paying rent earning more money without a car payment not have XYZ in the bank.

But they don’t live together. Maybe he does have assets. Don’t forget there are other expenses such as clothing, entertainment, paying for dates, travel, education, which can also take up a salary, but if it’s his money I’d say he is entitled to spend as wishes while not married or living together…

It will be fine, maybe just needs to read the book Rich Dad Poor Dad to learn about budgeting, but that’s easy.. 

With my last partner we lived together and I didn’t care one bit how she spent her hard earned money. She wants to go to Spain on a girls trip? Sure. Buy a nice dress? Why not. At the end of the day, she also didn’t have such great savings but she was a sweet caring lovely woman that always brightened my day - and that was priceless 🙂

I think he’ll be fine, just maybe should learn how to budget a bit more but hey we are all learning and improving.

I also think OP is very caring and thoughtful. I think it’s normal to think these things… 

To be honest he’s made it this far in life and has a steady job, he will be fine.

You mentioned he earns more, so he must be doing alright with his skills and experience, or is he skipping work and about to be demoted or fired because he has an addiction and can’t handle his professional requirements?

I wouldn’t berate him. He can pay his own bills, seems to have a decent job, I’d focus on other things.