whitecupvictim

Don't ever change your philosphy. You are right on! When I found out recently about this latest "cheating", my eyes were finally opened like yours are. When "she" told me that she loved MY HUSBAND's company, I knew then that I never would be able to stand him ever again. As for others out there who will love me, I will never trust another man as long as I live. Hope I have a few years left to enjoy life on my own.

I can't give advice here because I stayed with a cheating spouse for 30 years. There were many physical affairs, the last one I know about was 10 years ago. Her husband called me in the middle of the night and said that his wife was in a motel room with my husband, etc. etc. All I can say is that "once a cheater, always a cheater" - much like a child molester. They can't give up the thrill. They will always show the sames signs of cheating, however, so be on the lookout for them. And don't think that when they get older they outgrow it. . . they don't. Then, at 50, you realize that you've wasted your whole life on a worthless piece of s***. If the anger doesn't kill you the humiliation will. but, some of us learn the hard way!

Your forum has helped me tremendously lately to know that I am not crazy! Your articles on "is it cheating" and "is the other woman responsible" have let me know that I am on the right track. . . divorcing a man who meets another woman (secretly) every Saturday "just to talk" and leaves me at home with no transportation. To his (and her) surprise I DID have some transportation 2 weeks ago and had my eyes opened when I caught them together (in a public place). The look on their faces told most of the story, and then the next Monday, she told me the rest of the story. She enjoys meeting my husband every Saturday to listen to his "wonderful stories"! I have asked that we do stuff on Saturday only to be told no. Now I know why. While I have been cheated on several times in the past 30 years with this man, I thought that he had outgrown his need for "ego-flattery" - I doubt if it is sexual yet. . . but it is sure headed in that direction. With counseling I will get through this - I will NOT be humiliated by him ever again. The emotional infidelity to me is worse than physical infidelity! I have invested 30 years in this man, and he has tossed our relationship aside. Again, thanks so much for the postings that let me know that I am not crazy to leave such a marriage. I will survive. _________________ doormat no more