decibelx

It happens. Sometimes people's feelings are fickle. Maybe she was digging you at first but something changed for her and that's fine. Don't dwell on it too much and pick yourself up so you move on to find your person.

Use this time you have to work on yourself. Get healthier, get fitter, work on your hobbies. I mean if not for your own betterment, at least you'd have some new content to update your dating apps with.

You were vulnerable after a break up, open to rebound sex and he just saw his in. This guy doesn't sound all that trustworthy from what you're describing to us. I wouldn't put too much faith in anything he says.

I'm sorry that happened to you. People really can be scummy bastards. But imo, it's best to be open and honest. This is something that happened to you and in no way a fault of your own. I'm hoping she will be understanding but if not, give her some space to sort out her feelings about it. In the mean time, I agree with Wiseman. Speak to a professional as they would be better suited to help you with this.

I agree. Figured that people are never going to come to you but instead you have to go to them if you're really set on making new friends. I'll try to look for some online activity groups as well, as there'll probably be less pressure to it than online dating. I was going to reach out to some course mates but most of them are 16-21 so we'd probably not have much in common 😕

Yeah, you're right. I think I'm just so depressed and tunnel visioned out at the moment that I can't envision a future where things will change or where I'm happy. I just have to try and pull myself together for the next couple of months and focus on my studies first and foremost, and then everything else. Wish I wasn't doing it alone though.

The issue is that we're back in lockdown here in Australia and things aren't looking very good at the moment. If we were back on campus, I would go join activity groups 100%. But it's 800+ new cases a day now, so going out and meeting people isn't going to be an option. I wouldn't even know where to start making friends online either.

Nooo no no, end this immediately. Always trust your gut feeling. If you feel something is wrong, it usually is. There are a million men in this world who are better for you, it may just take some time to meet them. But don't sell yourself short with this fella.

I'm not into the whole dating app thing (tried it, multiple times-- never worked out). I'm turning 30 this year and am in my 2nd year of uni. I decided to go back to pursue another bachelors degree but because of covid, things have been incredibly different. Most of everything is online these days and there's barely any interaction with others in my day to day life. As per my last post, I met someone on Zoom but that fizzled out after some time. Long distance is incredibly hard after all. That situation still hurts, but I'm trying to move forward. However, I'm all alone in a foreign country with no opportunity to make new friends, what more date. The last two years have been so lonely and I'm not sure how to navigate life at the moment.

I've been depressed for years and then this year I met a uni classmate on Zoom who made me feel good for the first time in awhile. I haven't had friends in a long time ever since my depression hit. We became friends and I developed feelings for her after some months. She felt the same. However, we're no longer in the same class in the new semester and I can feel her pulling away. I don't know if it's paranoia or just gut instinct but I also feel like she's falling for someone else in her new classes (recently came to know this person exists through an extra curricular group we happened to all be in), which hurts, even if I don't have concrete proof of it. I feel myself sinking back into that depressive state and it's affecting my coursework. Couldn't even bring myself to attend classes this morning. What do I do?

Thank you for this. I feel so stuck, but this made me feel heaps better knowing there's a way out of it although it might be hard to even take the first step.

I was looking into joining the volunteering club on campus, but their activities have been altered a bit cause of Covid. Will join regardless.

Right now my time is mostly spent on coursework, which of course gives me no joy whatsoever. In my free time I just watch movies and spend time on YouTube, so yeah I should probably look into a more productive hobby. Just have to figure out what I like doing cause I've been stagnant for so long due to depression. 100% agree on your last point-- my attachment style is likely anxious due to my parents being emotionally negligent.

I've spent too much time alone and single, I think that's the problem. When someone shows interest in me it's like a whole new world of emotion has opened up.

I don't. I'm an introvert and struggle with social anxiety, so its been rough.