I have been with my husband for 15 years; married for 9 with 2 beautiful children but found out the other day that my husband has been having an affair for the past year with someone he works with. He says it is now over and only ever wanted and still wants me and his family. He is really sorry what he has done... yet I just don't know what to do all I can imagine is him and her together and what a complete idiot I have been. We have a very good marriage or so I thought although our sex lives has not been great at all since the kids came 4 years ago he says he only ever went with her because he felt wanted and he thought it would help me if he didn't pester me for sex but as we both work full-time and don't get in till late I have to admit there is no energy left to do anything never mind have sex. Please help anyone else in this situation. I truly still love him but don't know what to do. He is not the sort of man to flirt and I know this has been the only affair but also found out that she became pregnant and an abortion which was decided by them both as the best thing to do.... I am finding it hard to cope with this as well especially as we have 2 small children of our own and haven' stopped crying since I found out.
