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  1. The reason why I hesitant to deactivate my account is I use my facebook mostly for face book groups for my youtube channel. Other than that I hardly use it. As a matter of fact, I temporary deactivate my face book for 4 years some time ago because trying to severe ties after he left me for the umpteen time and completely blew me off. I was so hurt and I vowed myself to not get involved again. He had no way to contact me and it helped me to move on I had to go back to Face book 2 years ago when I opened a youtube channel so I can join the face book groups to get engagement on my ne
  2. Is this a new feature? I tried to change my settings to only have friends message me but there isn't that option of only having friends message me. Is it widely available in other Countries ?
  3. yes, I've already told him to not contact me again and blocked hi main Face book account. He kept coming in out of my life and I was sick of it. Now he made a fake face book account to get around that by saying he misses me and hopes to hear from me, but I think he is just bored and will leave again at some point
  4. My ex won't respect my wishes of me not wanting contact and keeps reaching out by making fake Facebook accounts to get around me blocking him. It's making mad to point I want to write out a nasty response. Which one would eat at him more..silence or a nasty response? Has anyone been ignored by an ex? we you hurt
  5. My ex and met on Face book 10 years ago and we hit it off. However, after 5 months he broke it off because he felt like we don’t live within reasonable distance to support a relationship. We live 5 hours away from each other of driving distance. We still kept seeing each other because we couldn’t let go. We wanted to be together but in practice there was a great distance separating us Then he ended it again because he lost feelings, according to him. We ceased contact only for him to reappear stating he misses me then we started seeing each gain. He went cold again and ended it again for
  6. I do not enjoy the attention, I usually just find it easier to say I'm not available or don't date co workers which is true than outright saying i'm not interested in dating you. And this usually work in other cases and some men back off and leave it alone. it's not comfortable having a conversation like that for me if i don't have to, so I usually try that and if doesn't work then outright reject them which isn't fun for me. which i have to do in the case unfortunately
  7. I will stop buying his food and laughing at his comments and halt them going forward. I also want to add that he has asked me point blank if I will date him if I was single before. I told him no because I'm against dating co workers because it changes the work place environment and if something happens then you're forced to see that person and I don't want tension at work. He said he understand and see what i mean and back off for a while. Which is true especially considering that fact I've been with the company for 8 years, have build up my senority and have medical benefits. So quitting is
  8. it's big cooperation and we work in the same related departments where I have to talk to him for work related
  9. Thank you guys for your response and insights. I do agree that I'm not being firm with him and being more firm will get him to back off as he's clearly not getting the hint. However, i do not think I've encouraged him either because any contact he has tried to initiate that isn't work related I've ignored. at some point he sent flirty texts to which I ignored and he hasn't tried to contact me outside work since i never encourage it when he tried. As far as his business goes, he cooks and sells meals as side hastle every now and then usually announce it other co workers as well. so who ever is
  10. One of my co worker was married to another woman for few years when i stated working with him..Then his wife left him and is not pregnant with another man. They are divorced now. As soon as his wife left him, he started pursing me but i was not interested. So I told him that I'm not available. I was not in relationship with anyone but I was casually dating. I thought that would be the end of that. periodically he started joking saying he will wait for until I am single. after a while he would ignore the fact that I told him that I'm not single and tried to message me outside work but would a
  11. Unless he is divorced and living separately from his former wife, he's still married. Separated = still married even if he moved out. Until they have both signed on the dotted line for the divorce papers. still living at home? ?Then you're the other women plain and simple. That's the oldest line in the book
  12. When we met online, we hit it off. we met in person and the connection and chemistry was undeniable. He stayed at my flat for 2 weeks.And he asked me to be exclusive but the problem is we live hours apart. But he said we will make it work. When he return to his town, he confessed to me shortly that he slept with his ex. According to him she started reaching out to him a week when he was planning to see me and she knew about me as he told her. When he returned home she asked him to hang out and he accepted with intention of just chatting. one thing led to another they ended up having sex. h
  13. So guys you were right, Part of me still had hope that it would work out and he would be interested in going on date so I responded to his text and said "I'm alright, how about you"? just to see what he says next since i left the ball in his court. He never responded and haven't heard from him since. So now i'm perplexed why he reach out at all. I blocked his number because I don't have time for time wasters
  14. Wel, I was also curious why he would contact me when made it clear that i'm not willing to go to his house. I will not continue if he isn't willing. i thought he had change of heart
  15. Honestly, I'm confused where his head at and where he wants this go because i made it clear that i will not be meeting unless in public and if he isn't willing to meet in public, it's a big NO NO to me. He never responded so i thought that was it and i won't be hearing for him. Then 5 days later he messaged as if nothing happened and asked me how i'm doing. so i'm little confused on what he's thinking and if he willing to actually hang out in public because I'm not going over to his house anytime soon
  16. UPDATE He contacted me after 5 days of no silence..i thought he was gone. how to proceed . does this mean he wants more?
  17. Thank you guys for your insights .I just want to clarify that I did not accuse him of cheating. I basically said the person i want to get to know has to be single and willing to meet in public while we get to know each other. I also want to mention that we do chat on facebook messenger sometimes and it shows your online status and when you were last online etc.I noticed that sometimes he doesn't come online 2 days. He often goes MIA some days where i sent a message and he won't respond like a day later or 2. Then they are days when he is active and available to respond to messages. I find it
  18. [quote= Did you have reason to think he's not single? No but just because he pursued me doesn't mean he's single. I've had alot of attached men pursue me so that's why I always make sure to ask from the get go because some will just say, you never asked
  19. On June 27th I noticed few random request from people i don't know but share mutual friend. I accepted them all and one of them was guy who immediately messaged me and say hi. I asked him if we know each other and he says no but I look very familiar. To make a long story short we have been chatting here and there. He casually suggested we meet up to get to know each other couple times but there haven't been concrete plans set. I have asked him what he wants to do on our first meeting and he says whatever i'm down for he is okay with it. Well i couldn't think of much to do since most places ar
  20. Who says i refuse to go to therapy? i said I don't like going to therapy and talk about it to relive everything as i find it distresing..It doesn't mean i will not utilize it as it essential. I'm planning to attend EMDR soon as i heard it's a very effective to treat PTSD. And i do all those things above, and it temporarly keep my mind busy but eventually i come home, I encounter events that triggers my flash backs, these are events that reminds me of the traumatic events. This can happen anywhere, in public, watching a movie, reading magazines , reading a book. This is not something you can b
  21. thank you for understanding. Not sure why some people had the impression that I'm using everyone as a therapist. The only people that i told is my very close friends and my family when they asked about him and wonder why we're not in touch. I also want them to know what kind of person he is. even in those cases, I don't go in depth and the details about the abuse. Those are pleasant memories that i would rather not relive I also agree with you. I could not talk about this for long time because i felt so ashamed and tried to bury it. Sadly it won't go away by just ignoring it. The fact tha
  22. Just to make it clear, I don't continually dump my problems on them and keep telling them the same old. It's actually very painful for me to talk about this in depth so i avoid talking about at all cost. what happens is my father naturally comes up in the conversations since these are my relatives and he also has connection with with some of the family back home. I don't go out of my way to mention it. Once it was my uncle who kept pestering why i don't have relationship with him and i had to tell him. Recently it was mom's aunt who brought him in our conversation and she asked me something
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