Elaina1987

Hiya, I saw him a while ago but he doesn't seem to want my friendship anymore, its a shame because I miss his friendship. I only wish I knew what to do. I have other friends of course good ones too but we have known each other forever.

thank you very much for that advice. I do love him, but obviously I have never been in love with him in that way. I do miss his friendship so much, we have a good laugh together.

I had a problem with my 'gay' friend 3 years ago, he was confused, so we went to a gay club together, anyway, he met someone, had a kiss, and some more, and said he was confused, his words were this 'I don't know if I find men fascinating' so I said' ok keep experimenting and see what happens, don't label yourself'. This carried on for 4 months, he stopped and said he was 'straight' got a girlfriend, and loved her so much, and she dumped him, he kept saying that 'all the best girls never love him, or want him'. I had a boyfriend, but I noticed everytime I did, he got always said 'you could do better', and used to follow me everywhere in clubs, all my friends thought he liked me more than a friend, we known each other since we were kiddies. One night we kissed, he kept saying, 'my head is spinning' I said 'are you so drunk?', he said no, 'I just don't know what to think'. he held me close, I noticed after that he kept an even closer eye on me. Anyway a week later I got off with someone else in front of him, to tell him I just wasn't interested in him, and left for University the following week. i also noticed he got off with another girl right in front of me, I found it amusing. Anyway 2 years down the line, we have met up previously, he always said he was straight before this, he told me he was Gay again for sure this time, but hasn't fallen in love with a man yet, bare in mind he is older, at 25 years old, I would have thought he would now be more sure of his sexuality. We went out clubbing again, and he hugged me and said he was in love with a woman, and looked at me really funny like he was trying to tell me something. I backed off, and too be honest, have lost contact with him. He tried to call me in September but I can't deal with him, his feelings seem to be al over the spectrum. I could go on and on, about some of the things he has done, like shopping, put his hands on my 'bum', and saying, 'this is so no one else looks at you', go out clubbing and hugging me, looks at me with these 'weird looks'. I love him, but not in that way. I don't know if his feelings are deeper or what, but I truly believe some guys are just confused, and it might take them years to learn who they really are. I haven't seem him for ages, and ignored his calls, I think he got the message, but if I sound cruel, it's because I couldn't deal with his sexuality problem. He has always claimed to have loved this 'woman', and the night we were in the club and he told me he loved this woman, he also said he would never fall in love because it hurts. Contradicting himself yet again. I haven't seen him for ages. I would stand by him if he was 'gay' but I would appreciate it if he acted more like a friend than like he is obsessed with me. I have other gay friends, and straight guys friends and none of them act like this guy. Any help would be appreciated.