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thanks ya'll...i really really appreciated it. i think i will just ignore him and move on as if we broke up. its what he wanted, not me, and he needs to feel the full extent of his actions. i'm just not going to tell him anything right now, just ignore ignore ignore. see what happens. at least...if the true break up is completely final, i'll know exactly what kind of person he is. no regrets. right? -__- i still just can't believe...in 3 weeks, 2.5 years poof. as if it wasnt for anything...at least that's what it looks like to me....

Hi everyone.. i'm new to the boards here and i was reading from the beginning all that has been transgressing with a few of you here. Wow. i'm going through the "break" right now. i'm 25 and he's 24. the relationship officially was 2.5 years strong. i mean...no fights...we were very happy. he even admits that himself. it really wasnt a question of if we'd get married, but when. everyone else thought the same. until...early february. my bf is a gamer...and although i play videogames sometimes, i am not as hardcore as he is on some games. and that is fine...i never said he couldn't do any of those things so long as he spent time with me. he met this girl who is also a competitive gamer....and since the week after valentines day in feb....all the signs that his mind was somewhere else appeared. he talked to this girl alot..and what was weird was that i was sort of her friend too...but now i can't talk to her obviously. she's just 18 yrs old. he told me he wanted a break...to figure out his feelings for this girl. after all i've put into the relationship..in about 3 weeks time he wants to risk everything WE'VE had for this girl he hardly knows. he admits that he doesnt really know her but wants to and is following his heart. he only wants to be in a relationship with me if he's in it 100%. of course i agree. so, i moved out...not what i wanted, what he asked ...but deep down i know i wouldnt be happy watching him not 100% there. so now he still wants to sort of be in my life. i play soccer and he wants to come to my games...but besides that...no contact. we see each other online and we share cell phone accounts....but what is the point of a break if there's contact? he said he needed a break to be wiht himself to sort out his feelings. he said that if his feelings for her even partially go away, then he'll drop the whole thign with her ...that is if i take him back. obviously i am the one waiting...and i dont want to give up since he says not to think that the outcome of the break will be negative... so i'm just trying to pick up the pieces and see what to do. i was thinking to myself to treat this as a break up so that i can grieve, get angry etc and just continue with my life and see what happens. b/c i still love him. and i know he still has strong feelings for me... i just dont know what to do ....if i am doing the rigth thing....i read what was written already about other relationships and....i want to wait and see what happens b/c i dont think i could go on feeling what may have happened if i didn't. as much as this hurts. please...someone help..