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well me and my girlfriend of 6 years broke up 2 weeks ago. i was away on vacation and we broke up over the telephone. we both live together so when i got back it was bit awkward since we live in the same apartment together...i wil lbe moving out of this apartment at the end of this month. but we have been nice to each other and it hurts a lot and she cries once a in while about it in front of me. and she told me she didn't want to see any one else for the time being until we settle our differences and she is scared if she went to find someone else she may end up falling for someone else. and she doesn't want me to go look for anyone else either for the same reason. i still have been seeing the "other" girl almost everyday...but at the same time...i think about all the good times i've had with my ex and how she was so great to me...and how at one time i was very loyal and caring to her...and i wonder if i'm making a mistake by not getting back with her again. i'm feeling so confused....should i just move on with this "other" girl or try and work it out with the ex.?? do you think moving out of the apartment and living on my own for a while will help heal the relationship? HELP!

now what happens if the "itch" turns out or looks promising for a new long term relationship.

thanks for the suggestions....well last nite i told her that i'm so busy with work and my hobbies that i tend to neglect her and not want to put so much time into our relationship anymore..of course she was upset about this...and this morning we basically ignored each other all day. we are both moving out of our apartment in may ...i told her i thought moving in with each other was a bad idea and if we had to do it all over again maybe we should've waited longer b4 moving in...so i'm not sure how life is going to be after we live seperatley...will our relationship get better since we are farther away from each other...(she either will move in the same town with me..or end up moving near her parents which is 300 miles from me) ...or will it just make breaking up a whole lot easier since it's unavoidable...it's a tough situation. i think i really need some space from her for a while just to see what it is like no being around her..and see if that helps ..or maybe it'll make it worse..

I need advise badly. I have been dating my girlfriend of almost 6 years since i was 19...she was 17 at the time..now i'm 24 and she's 23. when i first met her i was so in love with her and we both felt the same for each other...she ended up graduating from high school and moved up to college with me and we got a place together. we have lived with each other for 3 years now and she has helped me thru everything...good times and bad and always was there for me...and i was the same way to her....but after a couple years I've been so busy with school and work and my hobbies that i started to stray from her...i think mostly because we spent all this time together...so recently i met another girl 6 months ago and just started talking...and i told this other girl i had a gf but i wasn't happy with my gf anymore....and i was going to move out of my apartment once my lease was up...me and this girl ended up sleeping together and started spending time together almost like if we had a relationship...so obviously i got myself into a real bad situation now...we spent about 6 months together behind my gf back . but at the same time i don't know why i'm doing this...it's not like my GF is bad to me or anything..shes's a real good gf and i'm not sure if i'm having this affair becasue i want something "new" or am i just bored with the 6 yr relathionship i had....i've been thinking a lot lately and i don't know if i want to jeopardize the 6 yr relationship that i have had...i think about all the things we've done in the last 6 yrs and it's gonna hurt losing all of that. but at the same time i get along great with this new girl and she told me she loved me.....should i just end this affair and work on the current relationship i have and start fresh. i know this is a horrible situation and i'm wrong for doing what i did...but that's why i turned here to seek help and advice..so please tell me what i should do.