bryanf4i

First of all I just want to say I appreciate everyones advice. I saw my friend last weekend when I went up to visit her and I've definitely decided I'm going to tell her how I feel. If it were any other girl I would have no problem at all just asking if she wanted to go out sometime. The reason I think I'm going to run into a problem with my friend is because I don't want to be so casual about it that she thinks I'm just asking her to hang out as friends, on the other hand I don't want to freak her out by being too serious about it. Anybody have any advice on how I might be able to ask her out on a date rather than as friends? Again, I appreciate the advice.

I have known my friend for several years now. When we first met she was in a relationship with another guy so I settled for just being friends and everything was good for awhile. About a year after we met she broke up with the guy she was seeing and a month or so later I told her I had feelings for her and she said she wasn't ready to get into another relationship yet. After a short period of awkwardness we started hanging out again and things were back to normal other than me still having feelings for her. A few months later she ended up moving out of state to stay with family while she went to school. For the past year or so we've kept in touch by telephone pretty regularly but haven't really seen each other for awhile. Up until a few weeks ago I had pretty much dismissed my feelings for her and convinced myself that it was just a crush; I've been dating off and on ever since she left. However, when she came into town to visit a few weeks ago all the same feelings came back as soon as I saw her step out of her car. She now plans to move back into town in the next few months to finish out the last bit of school and probably stay permanantly. I now have the dilemma of whether or not to tell my friend that I have feelings for her, it was a little easier to avoid with her being out of state but shortly I will be seeing her almost every day. The only reason that it is such a problem for me is because she is such a good friend and I don't want to risk ruining that friendship by making things too awkward between us and on the other hand I've never felt like this about anyone before. Any advice at all would be very helpful. Thanks in advance