kara555

Ok still no contact he calls my sister and brother-in-law at least twice a week. Asks questions about who I am hanging out with and all that but refuses to call me. I do not understand him at all. I need a next move i want to get him back I know that is what I want. I am jsut not sure how to do it. Does anyone have any suggestions?

Ok well still no contact from him. I had not called since Valentines Day and I saw him on the road yesterday so I called and left a message. He called my brother yesterday after I left the message to talk about the Maryland Basketball game. I don't understand. He still has not shut off the cell phone and has not told me what the bill is for it either. He is still contacting my family. I do not know what the deal is after he tells me that you never know what the future holds. I don't know how to handle the situation anymore I just don't understand how after all this time has passed why can't he just talk to me.

Ok! I have an addition to my story. First off I have been so good I haven't called at all since Valentines Day. Well I didn't even call on Valentine's I just left him a message. I found out that last weekend my ex went over to my sisters house to visit my nieces and nephew which if you want to cut off all contact with me that is not the way to go about it. Anyway, he asked my brother-in law if I was dating anyone and just random questions. So I think that the no contact thing is working. My brother-in-law asked why he didn't just keep me as a friend with benefits and he told him that he couldn't do that because he knew that it would lead into us being back together and he doesn't have time for a girlfriend right now. I am not that kind of girl anyway you either want me or not but, I think that he was asking to see what kind of reaction that he got. Just trying to figure my next step any suggestions.

Ok! What should I do about the phone bill. I don't want him to have to pay the bill himself. Any Ideas?

thank you to everyone for your replies hopefully we can make this work. I need some ideas to get him to see me or to get him to call me. Any ideas? Kara

Ok! I know that I have to play it cool and all but, is there something that I can do to get him initiate contact with me. He did right after he told me that it was over. He called and was really sweet. i honestly think he wasn't ready to tell me that it was over and he still wants me to hang on but, what am i hanging on to. HELP!

Ok! I am going to try to keep this short. My ex and I were having problems around Christmas I was very stressed out and I was pushing him away. I kept getting mad and telling him to leave and he didn't. Well right after the New Year I told him to leave again and he did. I tried to apologize but, he wasn't having it. He didn't call me for almost a month. He told a friend to tell me a few things. We have a very close mutual friend that works with my ex everyday. I know that my ex talks about me everyday and that he loves me. He wouldn't talk to me so I went to a class that he has and confronted him. I asked him why he couldn't just call me tell me that it was over. He said that he didn't want to have to through the confrontation. Anyway, he told me that it was over and that he was going to turn my cell phone off on 2 days later. I said ok that's fine. Well the day he was supposed to turn the phone off he called me at 8:30pm on a Friday knowing that I was either out or on my way out. He was really sweet asking me if I had a chance to get the phone taken care of I told him no but, he could turn it off. He was so nice and told me no that he could leave it on for a few more days I said thanks he tried to talk to me but I was going somewhere and he had just hurt my feeling really bad two days before. I told him that I would go the next day to take care of it and would let him know what happens. He said ok and we talked for a few more minutes as we were getting off the phone he said to call him tomorrow and that he really looked forward to talking to me. I did know what to think that night so I just hung out with everybody. The next day I went to the phone place and they told me that we had to go there together. I really didn't feel like thinking about him all night on Saturday so I didn't call. I left a message the next day saying that we had to go together and that he could call me on Monday or whenever he had a minute. I asked him not to call me that night because I was going to Super Bowl Party and I was going to be around a lot of people. Well, he hasn't called me since then. I hear from our friend that he's not going to turn the phone off and that he loves me. The friend said that I am starting to turn the tables on him and that I was making him think. He doesn't want me to date anyone else and he is making plans to try and run into me places. I called him yesterday which was Valentine's Day and left him a Message just saying Happy Valentine's Day Hope you had a good day talk to u later. No response at all. What can I do to make him understand that I love him and that I was just going through a stressful time in my life and that I want him back? He thinks that nothing will change but, everything already has. I am trying to get through to him but it doesn't seem to be working. Please help me!