The advice is needed for so many of us that you gave. Here it is Christmas Eve and tonight (on schedule) I'm reflecting this past year. Specifically the past 2 years and how breaking up with my ex of 9 years has been wonderful.
The caveat here however is that my summer fling has been a HUGE disappointment (something I never inteded to be a fling). I'd call it a very romantic cul-de-sac; that I'd love to forget; but can't. I wish I'd never met him yet I still long for him and this holiday crap always makes it worse (as we all know).
I am focusing on NC tonight to stay sane for New Years. I keep wondering why my inner B***H hasn't taken over to tell me he's not worth it and a loser or he'd realize but since I had a relationship for 9 years go out the door and he's battleing a rebound situation himself (that resulted in my hurt!)....I kind of understand and hate him ever more for that.
Anyhow regardless of all that I TOTALLY AGREE with you thoughts on moving on, letting go of the pain, and realizing it's not worth it. I just hope all of us can find what we want eventally.....like many girls my greatest fear is being single forever, and since I'm 31 going on 32 in Kentucky I'm fearful I won't find the right one in enough time to one day have kids. Fear is all that THAT is though and I try to LAUGH at fear...hate the thing.
I'd be less afraid of skydiving or snakes though...so go figure!...lol
Anyhow....Hope everyone is having a happy holiday and any words of encouragement is always nice....wish me luck in my NC stance through the holidays....maybe I'll survive it and it gets over with quick!.....nite! javascript
