MissX

At that time, we were still in that establishing boundaries point in our relationship so it was more about sitautions that I wasn't fond of.

Hi everyone, I have an issue in a semi-new relationship (3 months dating, 6 months being friends) that has been bothering me for a few weeks now and I hope someone here can provide some good advice. To give a brief history, my last relationship was a little unnerving in the fact that my ex-boyfriend lied to me a lot and cheated as well. I was a more trusting soul then but in the end when I found out the truth about him from a mutual friend I was crushed and wished I would have dug a little more. Now, I'm dating a wonderful guy in many ways who has been very open with me about most things and is very supportive and affectionate. I know he truly does care about this relationship and he backs that up with action. Here's the problem, in being so open with me I have access to a lot and I have found a few things through snooping which are bothering me. I've noticed that he has a tendency to lie about small things with his friends and family. Also, I caught him a lie to me that isn't major but the fact is that he did. I'm not very proud of that fact that I've been snooping but I have been honest a little bit with him on that, I just haven't called him on everything. When we have discussions on being honest with each other he tends to agree with me but I don't know what to make of this stuff and it's not like he's opening up about the fact that he lied to me about this thing that I found out. I know in the past when he has told me about a few things, we did argue and I'm afraid I've set up a bad dynamic for him to be more guarded about what he tells me. So what I want to know is are we doomed or can we get over this? I really don't want to snoop anymore but feeling like he hasn't been honest compells me to do it more. Can you overcome this on both sides with work or should I scrap this relationship? Any advice would be appreciated. Thank you, MissX