RichPyke

please delete this topic. cheers

Best advice is find a common interest and talk about that a bit. That will make it easier to talk, then when done you ask her stuff like about her family, her etc.

Right back again on this one. I know I shouldn't go there but forget about that bit lol. Basically I think I have fallen in love with her now. Tried not to but can't help it. She told me a couple of weeks ago she was falling for me and I said it can't be love cus she don't know me properly. Thursday night I told her I think I love her and she said to me I cant because like I said I don't know her. I think I know her well enough to fall in love with her though, we talk all the time etc. She also said its very sweet of me to say that tho. When I said to her that Im not sure what it is but I really think it's love and its scary and weird (cus I havent been in love for a long time and because im scared of getting hurt etc) she said she promises it isnt love. Earlier I asked her if there is any chance and she said she doesnt know, she loves me as a mate, a best mate etc. But basically said no cus of the distance and what other people will say. I cant give up but dont want to push her away completely. Mates is better than nothing but we both feel the same shes just scared of the distance from what I can see but even when i said a bout moving closer to her she didnt really say anything. How do I comvince her to at least give it a go? Tried what I can think of which is basically saying dont regret not giving it ago cus it can be something special as out friendship is already even tho its not been long. She says im her best mate already, and i havent known her long so surely anyone can see we could have something special. Just how do I get her to see that. Does all that make sense?

Right, more on this again lol. Basically I told her that Im there for her as a mate, that was a few days ago. Yesterday we were talking and she was getting funny and then told me to ignore her cus she is tired and stressed, she wouldn't say what about but I had an idea it was this other bloke. She went offline at 6.30pm-ish and I heard nothing for the rest of the night until 1.30am when she texted me asking if i was still awake, as I wasnt properly asleep I said I was and she said that she gets in to things she cant get out of, when I asked what things she said guess (so Im assuming the other bloke again) So I asked if it was that but no reply (think she was asleep then) Basically, Im a mate to her, a good mate. Something needs to happen to get her out of there because she doesnt want to be there. She cant just walk cus it will cause trouble but as both of us are keeping a low profile at the moment now is the best time. Now how can I tell her so it doesnt look like im being funny about the other boke, that she needs to get o ut now if she doesnt want to be there? What can I say? Anyone help please.

Nah I understand her completely there, I know the bloke well and he would cause her alot of hassel if she left him. By treating her like crap its along the lines of not giving her the attention she should have especially when someone else is around. Basically there is someone he would much rather be with but she has a boyfriend so he doesnt really stand much chance there, but he still gives her far more attention than the girl I like. Basically if shes around the one I like doesnt get a look in, when shes not then he turns to her. I think she is starting to see that, just wish I could tell her whats going on but the way things are I think she might think Im trying to make him out to be a bad man because I like her. It will cause her hassel if he finds out, he got pretty bad over a few rumours flying around about how she likes me. As far as anyone but me and her are concerned these aren't true as neither of us has said anything to anyone about it. I know alot about her and she comes to me whenever anything goes wrong or goes bad, I am the only one she can trust and the only one there for her all the time. She is a good friend to me too so I'm going to just be friends with her. Should anything else happen then great but I'm not going to hold my breath. I trust her and can honestly say she wont be like she is with my old mate with me, it's different with him because he likes to bully people in to things and if that doesnt work he will make them pity him and if that doesn't work he will cause no end of trouble for them. I would like to be able to get it through to her that, as at the moment both her and me are lying low at the moment as far as social events goes, that if there is trouble it shouldnt matter because we wont be there for it so it shouldn't bother us. Although I did drop a bit of a bad one when I was talking to a friend I thought I could trust but turns out I couldn't. Hopefully she will still trust me but not too sure on that one. Anyway, think its just friends and if anything happens then great if not then I got a good friend there (believe it or not she is a good friend to me, even if she is being a bi*ch to my old mate) Cheers for the help anyway

Well things just got turned upside down and inside out. What I haven't mentioned is that she was seeing an old mate of mine who I fell out with a few months ago. He has found out that her and I talk and all hell broke loose yesterday evening. That finished with them 2 not being together as far as I knew, until later when someone else told me they were back together. I asked her about it and she said yes they are, she told him they will see what happens but she knows it wont work. Me and her will still be mates and no one needs to know (it will cause trouble) and then we never know what the future holds. But now, today shes been funny, but then so have I, I keep going on about my feelings towards her, yesterday she said she did mean it when she told me she was falling for me, but today all I seem to be doing is upsetting myself and probably annoying her. Now, I know this other bloke very well, I know he wont treat her right etc. but I cant tell her what I know about him because she will think im just trying to get her to leave him. Hecan be very persuasive sometimes though and I can see him bullying her in to staying with him. Anyone have any ideas how i can make her see sense and realise that I will trat h er a million times better than he will or am I just going to have to wait and let her find out for herself?

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