This is going to be a long one, but I'll try to keep it short. I am a 22 year old guy. My ex-girlfriend of 9 months recently broke up with me. She is 33 divorced and has two children ages 16 (a girl) and 5 (a boy). We met at a club and really hit it off right away. She is very beautiful and really nice. After dating for about 3 weeks, she asked me to move in with her. I needed a place to stay, and it would've been cheaper than getting my own place, so I said sure.
When I moved in, she had no furniture, dishes, beds, nothing. She slept on a mattress in her room, and her kids slept on mattresses in the second room. I felt really sorry for all of them, so I opened a credit account under my name at a furniture store and bought everyone brand new furniture. She doesn't have very good credit. I got a living room set, dining room set, new beds, everything. I even bought a big screen TV, DVD player and stereo. I really wanted our place to feel like home.
After about two months of living together, we started talking about getting married. I told her I wanted to adopt her kids as my own, because both their fathers are in jail for selling drugs and stuff, and I wanted to help her raise them. I know...you say I'm too young, but I've had a lot of experience. My dad left us when I was young, and I had to help my Mom raise my brother and sister. So I know I could've totally done it!
At about the same time, her car broke down. We traded in my car for a new SUV for the family. The car is used, but we were able to put it in both our names despite her bad credit. I have really good credit, so they said it wouldn't be a problem.
Things were going great. We were living like we were married, doing things as a family. Life was good. Then, about a month ago, she got fired from her job as a receptionist. I asked her what happened and she said that her boss had it out for her and fired her for the first reason she could.
I started working extra shifts at the warehouse I work at. We are open 24 hours a day, so getting extra work was easy. My girlfriend was looking for a job, but couldn't find one she liked. I told her she could stay at home and take her time to find the right job. I put her name on my bank account, and opened a new credit card for both of us with our names on them. That way she could pay bills and get gas, groceries, whatever.
Then, about two weeks ago, I came home from work and she told me she wanted me to move out! She said she wasn't in love with me anymore, and wanted to break up. I was devestated! I couldn't believe it! I love this woman so much! We are a family! Even her little boy started to finally call me daddy. I don't know what to do!
I found out from her daughter that she is seeing some new guy already and that she had him move in! It's only been two weeks! We barely broke up and already she has someone new living in our place! Last night, I got served with a restraining order against me. She told the police I hit her and threatened her new man.
Also, when I moved out, I told her she could keep the furniture for me until I found a new place because I didn't want to pay for storage. Also, she took the car, saying that she needs it to get to work and take her kids to school. I told her that I would pay for the car because she can't afford it. Also, since I moved back in with my mom, I told her I'd help her pay her rent.
I know you all must think I'm crazy, but I love this woman and her kids! I don't want anything to happen to them. I feel really connected to her son...my son now...and I want to provide for him and his sister.
Am I crazy? I kept her name on my account so she can still pay her bills. I let her keep the credit card and the car and furniture. I don't want to take from the woman I love! I'm hurting so bad right now, I just hope that by still supporting her, she'll realize how much I love her, and end it with this new guy so we can be a family again. She told me she is having a tough time right now and wants me to leave her alone. THat's why she got the restraining order. She doesn't want me to bother her until she can get straightened out again, and said the restraining order is just to keep me from getting hurt.
I still love her and I know if I hold out long enough, she'll take me back! Any advice for a guy who's lost in love? I'd appreciate it!
