I have been doing the dating thing for quite some time now and we learn from experience.
These steps could and would possibly get your ex back. It has worked for me. Now me being a female these are the things that has worked for me, but I'm sure it's the same for both sexes.
#1 Do not beg or plead for them to take you back.
I was once engaged and my exfiance decided that he was not ready to get married. He decided for us to break up. The first two months I kept calling and calling. Every time I called I demanded,yelled,cried,cursed, and begged for him to come back. He did not want anything to do with it, and just did not want to talk to me.
#2 The NC rule really does work.
After awhile I started calling him less and less where it ended up I stopped calling him completely. After a month of no phone calls or text messages, he started calling me. He was wondering what I have been up to. Being friends right after a breakup is not a wise decision. Who ever initiated the break up is just going to confused you.
#3 Be busy.
Since I had more time on my hands I did some reading, going to the gym, spending more time with friends and family. After awhile I didn't think about him or the breakup as much.
#4 Act happy, have fun
I started going out more, parties,clubs,hobbies, I was still thinking about him and I still wanted him back, but I made sure that he didn't know that. The times he did call I was happy and elusive. I always ended the phone call first and never stayed on more than 5 minutes.
#5 There is other fish in the sea
I know everyone says this, but its true. This one was basically the real reason I feel I got my ex back. I started to see other people. Friends of mine felt it was time for me to move on, so they decided to set me up. There wasn't really anything serious btwn me and the guy I went out with, but it doesn't hurt to go out on dates. You never know, you just might find some one better than your ex.
My ex saw me out on a date with a guy a friend had set me up with. Me and my ex both made eye contact but that was about it. The next day my ex called me and wanted me back. HE was the one begging and pleading this time. Maybe its human nature but people want what they cant have.
Moral of story is, after we broke up I still lived my life. I made it clear to him that I can live with or with out him. Yes it was hard, Yes I still thought about him. After 4 months of being apart my ex and I got back together and we're happier than before. I was hesitant at first but we had a long discussion about things and how we felt.
"Let it go, let it flow...everything is going to work out right you know"
