he broke with me twice. First after about 4 months of exclusive dating. The apparent reason was that he lost his job and was under a lot of stress etc. As it was a reasonable ground for a break up I agreed to be casual friends with him after about 3 months break. He was very sorry about it, was depressed, etc. The attraction was still there on both sides, and we agreed to move slowly and very soon were sleeping together again. To cut it short, he had to leave for another city and we continued long-distance, then after a few months apart, he was back, and everything seemed just going the right way. We went on holidays together, though it turned to be very stressful in terms of logistics. After we came back I was jet-lagged and got some sort of an allergy, and was quite miserable and irritable. We had a fight, when I said I did not feel cared for, he attacked me for being sullen and closed. It did not resolve within a few days, and then he just broke up with me again. The reason being the 'it' was not there.
All together our relationship lasted just over a year. Since the breakup I tried to contact him and make up, but he says that his heart is not there for me, he likes me and wants to be friends, he does not want to succumb to his libido, as it's difficult to him to ignore the attraction. What am I missing here? He likes me and wants to be friends, he's physically attracted, 'his heart is not there'. Is there something wrong with me or with him??
