Ok, this is the first time I've been on a site like this but I need help big time! The bottom line is I am with a girl who I don't want to be with but I can't just leave her and the reasons are very complicated.
I'm 23 and engaged to, and live with, my 21y/o 'fiancee' (I hate that word), we've been together about 2 years and been engaged for about 1 year and she thinks our relationship is perfect.
OK, there are a few reasons why I want to leave, but the over all one is I FEEL TRAPPED! First and formost sexual relations have near enough stopped over the last 12 months. Our sex life was very active until then but then it just stopped, with only about 5 encounters over the last 12months - we've talked about it and she says its because she 'just doesnt feel like it'. Because of this I thought she might be cheating n me so to find out (I'm not proud of this) i put some spyware on my PC to see what if she was telling her friends anything (she talks to them alot on MSN, and most of them are male). From this I found out that she is not cheating on me but she lies, alot, about many things from little things (eg she told her friends about a concert she went to see with me which she never went to, I went with my sister) to really big things that make me angry (I'll tell this lie in the next paragraph as its long winded and needs some explaining...)
...My mother had a stroke about three years ago and now is weak down one side of her body (she can walk but needs a walking stick). My girlfriend ('fiancee') told one of her friends that my mother was just faking it because her limp changes leg (a small part of the lie!), that my mother made me take her shopping to the supermarket in a wheel chair because she was to lazy to walk round herself (I've never done this - after she was ill she wasnt even alowed out of the hospital until she didnt need a wheel chair) and that my mother made me give her money towards household bills because my sister refused to pay (my sister pays her fairshare for the house and I never even paid when I lived there!)...
Now I'm very close to my family so I find comments like this really offensive, it sickens me that she claims to love me but says things like this to people (I've heard her say other thinhgs like this to her mother), if for some reason she has decided to dislike my family I dont she why she needs to disrespect them so badly! The lack of sexual relations and these lies are the main reasons why I want to leave but I cant confont her because if I do about the first problem I'll get angry and bring up the second one and I cant really tell her about how I found that out. Also because of all the lies, how much can I really trust her?
...ok thats the reasons. I'd really appretiate some advice on it so far before I tell you about the problems with leaving (coz I've gone on for long enough, your probably all bored reading it!)
Thanx
