babydoll32

Hi, Ok, so he says that he's not sure that we have enough in common anymore. It's been like 8 months and we love eachother, but yesterday he comes out and says that we don't share enough interests. What am i supposed to do about that? We do stuff together and have fun and all that, but it seems to be bothering him. I think that we're ok and that when we are together (he lives quite a piece away) that we can find some way to spend our time. I am just confused as to why this came up and how to deal with his doubts. I don't know if there is really a solution to this, because a lot of the problem lies with him and in his mind. I'm just putting this out there to see if anyone else has come accross this and has any ideas. Its just hard to hear that he doesn't see how good we are for eachother cuz "we don't have enough shared interests". Let me know if you have anything to say to that. Merci

Just wanted to say thanks for the advice if you read this. you both make a lot of sense and i'm glad ppl like you are out there with intelligent things to say and share. I don't know what i'm going to do yet. i know i will talk with him but i can't be sure that i'm going to be able to ask the questions i feel like i need the answers to. As you suggested, i don't think that learning all about his past will make me feel any better... but to put my mind at ease i'm going to have to find out something. I think i'll go with just asking what he knows works in relationships with him and what doesn't for now. I'll keep it general and not get into specific experiences, perhaps some of that will come out later. Good idea? I don't know, but thats about all i can bring myself to do right now. Thanks again, you guys are great.

the only way to figure out if she likes you is to make eye contact one time she is looking at you and say hi. talk to her for a minute or two and take more signals from that conversation.

i dunno what to ask him or even how to ask him about his past. hes had a lot of gfs and i don't think that i can ever amount to what they were. his last gf was his first love and i have no chance against that cuz everyone remembers their first love. you'll always love them in the back of your mind won't you? i can't compete with that! help. i don't know how to ask him about what they had...or should i even go there. should i just leave well enough alone and not think about what they have done and how good things were with them. maybe i don't want to know why he loved her so much?