gingerscotsman

I like the way you have put that! You may be correct. If I look at her behaviour objectivly, over the last wee while she is not the sort of person I would imagine that I would love. I am still in love with that girl who would run at me and hug me when I arrived. I am still in love with that girl who would text me sweet messages until all hours of the morning. I am still in love with that girl who would say 'I love you James' as her first words in the morning. All of these qualities have been lacking in our relationship for quite some time. I just wish I could have that girl back ' I have talked to a few people about the situation and they all agree that I was treated poorly at the end. I just am finding it hard to believe that I might have actually been used. My heart does not want to believe such things but my head tells me that its true. I don't want to focus on the negative aspects though. I had alot of great times with her and thats what I want to remember about her, not how badly I was treated towards the end. Thankyou all for your continued support. You will be the first to hear of any new developments.

Thank you both for replying to my post. I do realise that the relationship is over but unfortunaly it is going to take a wee bit getting used to for me. She has been what my life has revolved round for over a year now and it is very difficult for me to let go. For a time I did blame myself for what were essentially her problems but I have realised now that it was not anything i had or had not done. I would love to continue to see her. If I followed my heart here then I would be with her now. I just can't bring myself to see her with another guy, doing the things that she refused to do with me. I do hope this is a step on her road to recovery and that her new bf won't be in the picture for long. I dare say there are not many guys who would be as patient as I have been. All a know about the new guy is that he shares some similar interests as her, he is 26 and has been out of work for 2 years. I know she has been treated badly in the past and I really hope this guy will be nice to her. I would take her back in the future if the conditions were right. She would need to treat me better though. The thing is with the exception of her lack of affection she was great. If she could sort that out then it would be perfect. I told her the night she confessed to me that I would always be there for her in the future but I will need to be carefull to make sure I don't get taken for a ride. I just hope she is happy and that one day I will find happiness too. Thanks for your continued support. I will keep you posted of new developments.

Hello everyone. I hope you can give me some advise. I had been going out with my Ex for 14 months when we split up. It was a little complicated though. She was my first girlfriend and taught me pretty much all I know about love. Our relationship was brilliant, certainly for the first 3 months. unfortunately my ex had a problem with her appearance. Despite my best efforts to convince her she was gorgeous she insisted she was fat and ugly (She really is beutiful and it tore me appart her saying this about herself). Without warning all physical aspects of our relationship stopped. This included kissing (any more than a peck on the cheek was a no no) and I had to almost beg for a hug. I was in the relationship for more than just the physical aspects and tried to help her through her problem by staying with her. With the exception of this our relationship continued to go well. We were more like very good friends than bf & gf. I tried various methods to help her feel better about herself but nothing worked. unfortunately the tension grew in me. I was confused about what was wrong and she said she did not know what it was. After 14 months we split. We remained very good friends though, the relationship never changed at all. We still saw each other as much (every day). We split on the premise that she was not in an emotional state to be in a relationship (her words not mine). I was relativly happy with this arrangment. My plan was to help her through her issues and then get back with her. unfortunately disaster struck a few days ago. We at this time would have been split for 3 months. I have been working alot and was unable to see her as much as I would have liked. In this time she was asked out by another guy, a friend of her friend. She told me about this and told me she was going to say yes. I was devastated. In my mind the relationship was never really over. I told her at this point that I didn't think I could be around her if she had a bf, even though I really want to be with her. This is a completely new situation for me. On the one hand I want to see her happy and hope that this new guy can help her where I have failed. On the other hand I am very jelous and want her all to myself. If she is not in an emotional state to be in a relationship how can she go out with this guy. She was everything I ever wanted in a girl but throughout the whole relationship I felt in many was a little underappreciated. What do I do. I don't think I can be around her knowing that she is with another guy but I really don't want to loose her forever. Ahhhh !! Help !!!!!! Confused!!