Truthful_Lies

Hey, I know exactly how you feel. I have now been in a relationship for around 9 months. I had the same problem as you, my past relationship did not turn out good. He always treated me like a little child, and telling me wat to do like i had no choice. I got out of it, and withe the help of my best friend, i found someone else. The problem is when the past commes back to haunt you, whether it be them themselves, or things which remind you of them. The best thing i found to do, was to actually talk to ur boyfriend. He doesnt no wat you are gong through mentally. Unless u tell him, he will think that there is something you are not telling him, and suspicion may one day break out. This will then lead to lots of different problems of not being close to him. From experience, again, i did not talk to my boyfriend, i went and talked to his bestfriend, in which i felt i could talk to more about it. This is because i had become good friends with his best friend, not as a friend of my boyfriend, but as i person him self. This also caused problem when his best friend knew all about me, and i feared to telling my boyfriend. I was also scared of ever telling him, in case he thought less of me. One day, i decided to tell him, and thank god, i did. it releases a great weight of ur shoulders. Having someone so close to tsalk to, and so be able to have a relationship where u r not scared of saying anything. However bad it may be, when my ex decides to start talking to me, and continually, my bf is always there for me, because he symptahises with wat i have been through. Altogether, i think u shud talk about it to him, it would clear your mind and share the load. it will bring u to closer as well becuase he may think u will be able to confide in him. hope you are ok.