d-blues

Getting rid of your shyness will come with experience. It'll be replaced confidence and you'll look back and say, "man, I don't know why I was so afraid". Keep agendas out ouf your head. You're probably thinking steps ahead. You're probably trying to figure out how to get this girl to go out with you. Why? You haven't said hello yet. Don't you want to see what type of person she is first? If you're just going on looks, you've got a different problem. Also don't think of her as this pretty girl. She's just another person. So go up to her and do something like, make a comment on how full the gym is that you're in together, if you're in a grocery store, comment on how rediculous the gas prices are now if you see her pumping gas next to you. That stuff will get it started. Then say, "by the way, my name is... what's yours?" DON'T USE LINES!!! If you guys hit it off, congrats. Get her #. In case you wanna know, say something like, "I really like talking to you. I'd like to give you a call and continue our conversation. What's your phone number?" Or you could give her yours. Later on the phone, you could ask her out. Say something like, "I'd really like to see you again. Let's meet for coffee. Are you available on ..." Or find an activity you share an interest in during the conversation and replace "coffee" with that activity. Whatever you want. If your date goes well and you go on quite a few more and you guys fall in love. You can ask her to marry you. I'm not at that stage. I don't even want to attempt a sample proposal for you hehehehe. Good Luck to you.

This is a follow up. Well, I did post something similiar to this follow up in the Asking Out For A Date section. Anyway, I never did tell her how I felt. The reason is that for 2 weeks now, she's been acting distant, impatient and sometimes rude to me. I think she got fed up with waiting for me to do something. Right now, I'm pissed off. I'll try to email her about it and ask her what's up indirectly somehow. I think this is going from a question of "friends after no" to "is she really a friend".

I've known this girl for 3 months. She and I are lab partners in Chemistry class. Anyway, since week one, she's been giving me signals that she's interested in me. We've also hung out as friends a couple of times. I became more and more interested in her as time went on. Then I started to question if I should tell her how I felt and thought about things a lot. Well, just as I was ready to talk to her and let her know I wanted to go out with her on a date and not as friends, I think she lost interest. I lost my chance. We used to talk alot about a lot of different things and could go on for a long time talking to each other. Then about two weeks ago I started noticing her pulling away. This week was the worst. We're all business now in Chem class. No more talking and joking around. I'd say she lost interest. I don't blame her. She gave me all those signals, hung out with me and waited for me to make my move. Either she got tired of waiting or someone else came along. Either way, I waited too long. Lesson learned. Next time I think a girl is into me and I'm into her, I'm going for it. No more playing around. So for those of you that are thinking about asking someone out or trying to go from friendship to romance, go for it. 50% chance of yes is better that 100% regret. Good Luck

Thanks for the tips. I have heard that the best romantic relationships start off as friendships. I'll come up with something to say that'll leave me an "out", keep my cool and just go for it. No problem. That is until we first see each other that day and she smiles at me.

First of all, great website. It's helped me figure out some things. Here's my situation. I met a girl last quarter in Chemistry lab. We've known each other now for about 3 months. In that time, we've studied together, gone out as friends a few times and I've seen her apartment once. Anyway, I don't know her feelings for me. I feel like I grow to like her more and more with every interaction. I want to let her know my feelings and tell her that I'd like it if we started dating. Here's my dilema and question. I still treasure this growing friendship and don't want to ruin it my making my feelings known to her although I'm sure she knows what's up already. My question is for those of you who've made your romantic feelings known to a fairly new friend and got rejected. Have you been able to retain your friendship or did it get too awkward after that? One reason I'm asking is that we're lab partners and we've still got 8 more weeks together in lab. Everyone there has seen the two of us getting closer from last quarter to now. If it all comes crashing down and all of a sudden she no longer wants to associate with me, I'd have to put up with the embarrassment for 8 torturous weeks. There go my grades. Advice is appreciated as well. Thanks, d-blues