bepositive, I didnt wish my ex a happy bday. When the day had passed, the morning after it hit me. I realized that now things have officially been cut and we now go our separate ways without looking back. I was in a lot of pain but I realized that this had to be done. We both needed to move on because that is the only way you can get back with each other, if it were to happen. If I had wished her, I would still be in the "friend zone" which is something I dont want. I really dont want her back either because after all, she destroyed a three year relationship in three days. If you dont know my story (I dont think i posted it) but her co worker who is 26, while she is 21, kept hitting on her since september. She knew he liked her and she told me everything. I trusted her and warned her that he was getting too close. He use to take her out to lunch and since he holds a higher position she couldnt exactly say no because it could jeopardize her job. In the end, the day we broke up he came over. Nothing happened but two days later, they're dating.
So after that I realized that it's best to let go completely and to let their relationship run it's course. Whatever happens will happen, all I can do is focus on things that I can control and they are myself.
It is safe to say that I know deep down she loves me because when i last saw her, it was a bit awkward but not as awkward as i thought it would be, I looked into her eyes and watched her while making that observation. So i decided then that she had to figure that on her own without me being there in her life.
My ex said consistently over the past couple of months before our break up and even before her co worker came that "oh i feel that we'll break up once and then get back together in the future."
I took it with a pinch of salt because things were going well (or so i thought) but now i realized that this may or may not be true. I'm not hoping for it, nor am i going to deny it if it came. I'm just gonna work on myself, my goals and my career.